flirting on the computor?

Question

I have been with my fiance now for three years. He goes on 'my space' for networking about his book hes just written. I caught him emailing a couple of girls personal comments such as ' like your photo thought it was really sexy' & another saying 'I like your smile'. I confronted him about this and told him how much hed hurt me. He says he didnt know why hed done it and that he was just having light fun. I always believed that if you were in love you didnt do that sort thing. This has now been the second time that this has happened and im also 5 months pregnant. He doesnt go out and is always in with me as hes on the computor most times. Am i over reacting and looking to much into this

Answer 1

You are NOT over-reacting. I have been in exactly the same position.....as your fiance. If you let him carry on you never know where it will end. Make him stop any way you can.

Answer 2

Yes I think you are over reacting,If he doesn't go out and spends most of his time with you,then surely he must love you,and be "in love" with you. Both men and women like to flirt with the opposite sex and over the computer its only a bit of harmless fun. I'm sure you'd worry a lot more if he was going out on a night and not getting home while late.One thing more...GOOD LUCK with the baby

Answer 3

I don't know if this will help...I have been married for 17 years, and I used to go into chat rooms, girls would flirt with me, and I would flirt back, I just thought it was harmless fun.
evidently women think differently than men. My wife, and every other woman we asked considered it cheating, while all the guys we polled, saw nothing wrong with it, put it in there with fantasizing.
but, bottom line, once I knew how much It upset her, I cooled it and left the chat rooms alone. I still don't understand it, but Its cause I'm a guy I guess.

Answer 4

there is something about women being pregnant and men straying. I don't want to accuse him of things when I don't know him, but what he has already done is called emotional infidelity. He is emotionally involved with virtual someones. Let me put it this way... we all need certain things from someone for a relationship... attention, conversation, etc. These people are providing him something that he isn't getting from you. And it may not be anything you can provide him! The hard part of this is... he could easily get addicted to doing this because he is getting attention from this.

It is extremely hard to repair betrayals and trust issues...

Answer 5

I don't think you're over reacting,it is very normal that you reacted that way especially when you have been together now for three years and at the same time you're already pregnant with his baby.You should realy confront him and tell him exactly how you felt.Do it in a nice and loving way so he'll listens to you more.

Answer 6

well your on here asking questions about your own relationship so you must be in doubt about your feelings hes behind a screen so no harm done why dont you have a laugh with it go on and mail guys funny comments get interested in what he does

Answer 7

it doesnt matter if you are over reacting or not, the fact is , it bothers you so he should stop..if he still does it when youve asked him not to then you have a problem.

Answer 8

Well as long as he is not going to meet these girls it should be OK but i would definitely keep my eye in this stuff.
good luck

Answer 9

You asre NOT overreacting. Tell him to stop or you will kick him into touch (Baby or no baby)

Answer 10

I WOULD MOT PUT UP WITH THAT,IF HE LOVES YOU HE WOULD NOT DO IT , TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL IF NOTHING CHANGES LEAVE HIM YOU DESERVE MORE THAN THAT.