2007-03-12 05:18:12 · 41 answers · asked by linda p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he is more than likely banging questionable chicks and he could give her something. But be discret when you tell her!
2007-03-12 05:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can go about this two different ways. Depending on how close you two are and how naive the wife is, you can sit her down and talk to her about it. Or if you guys are just associates, I think you should probably send her a note saying something like "you need to talk to your husband about what he does behind your back" or something along those lines. But don't just leave it alone because that could end up hurting more in the long run than helping her would.
2007-03-12 05:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Vonne W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl you work with has a right to know, thats a real big issue, because if you were the girl who had a husband like that, wouldn't you like to know if it was true or not? but be cautious, because either, it might not be the same person you think it is or you might not wanna be totally dragged into something that might start, i.e. a fight, or revenge against you for telling by the husband. But the girl has the right to know about that. i would say something because secrets are a bad thing to keep in a relationship
2007-03-12 05:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Reimill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why all the people who are saying yes are getting a thumbs down... does anyone have morals on yahoo? You need to be SURE of what you saw, you said it was a bar so how much did you drink? And be sure it wasn't your co-worker because that would just be embarrasing. But yes you should tell her, she as a woman deserves to know. Wouldn't you want to know? Just make sure you are prepared when you talk to her, tissues chocolate etc because she is going to need a friend.
2007-03-12 05:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tamra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those times you need to keep your mouth shut, cheaters always get caught and you do not need to be stirring up trouble in your place of work.
Your co-worker and her husband may be in an "open" relationship, and may each be cheating on the other. That is none of your business, either.
I would suggest that you stay away from this bar in the future.
2007-03-12 05:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since everyones giving yes/no answers I'll try to give you another option (provided you are cool enough with her to talk about relationships)... basically have her make the decision for you since you know her better than any of us. Get talking about relationships and ask her "hypothetically" if her significant other cheated would she want to know. Perhaps offer your answer first to make her more comfortable. Some people would want to know while some people wouldn't. You'll have your answer as soon as she answers that one question. If she does want to know though, you should go the anonymous route, even if she "knows" it came from you... Best of luck.
2007-03-12 06:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Hambone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well of course everyone on here is going to tell to tell you to stay out of it. She does have the right to know. What if a year from now she ends up with AIDS and you find out! You would never forgive yourself, right? I am not going to tell you what to do just give you something to think about. You have to follow your own heart............
To all the girls who said stay out of it, you are probably saying that for one reason or another! Put your self in the wife's shoes you would want to know too. If not your just dumb!
2007-03-12 05:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would NOT tell the wife. It's something you really want to step in to; you know? She'll eventually find out somehow, someway, he'll either goof up or someone else will tell her etc; heck she might even witness what you witnessed.=) This way if you stay out of it; they won't be coming to you with any questions etc...been there done that! It's absolutely not worth it =)
2007-03-12 05:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I were in this situation, I would not want to tell her . However she deserves to know. Perhaps you could find a way of telling her, without YOU having to do it . Maybe, leave a note on her desk ,etc. That way, if she doesn't believe it, she won't think you are a liar. Think about it.
2007-03-12 05:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Candace A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one... It all depends on how close you two are if you guys really dont talk then there might be a chance she won't believe you. But if you guys talk often enough you should defintiely tell her she has the right to know that her husband is a cheating dog..!!!
2007-03-12 05:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by dreamangel1102002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you stay far away from even thinking about doing that. Not only will destroy a friendship, but when he finds you duck! You see if see loves him deeply, she will believe him and not you. Should she decide to get back at you, she could tell the bosses that you tried to destroy her marriage - which could affect your job.
2007-03-12 05:24:37 · answer #11 · answered by Tony S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋