Depression?

Question

I am 39 yrs of age, and have had a very tough life, this is my 2nd marriage. we have been living with my husbands parents for 6 yrs
and its been hell. I have suffered so much in living with them, they have put me thru hell, I get the impression that they have tried to break me down, they play mind games, we have been offered a housing association, which we were supposed to have moved in last yr, and still waiting its driving me mad on the wait. I have been in total despair, you cant imagine what I have gone thru these yrs, its been sheer hell.
I know once we are out of here, we will be free, free to get on with our marriage, how do you cope with toxic in laws?

Answer 1

i'd just try to get out of the house as often as possible.

Answer 2

i am sure that 6 years is a hell of a long time and im sure that is it really worth all the hassle,there must be other options out there,to be 39 and living with your hubbys parents does not sound like a good way of living,what about private renting or if you get put into a hostel then you would get a house quicker,i know you might not like the sound of a hostel but surely a few months in there would be better than another 6 yrs with the inlaws.

Answer 3

First of all at your age you should be living with in laws!! Second of all they are never going to just go away when you move. You need to get a job and get out dont wait on a housing whatever to come along. Your a grown woman!!! You are the only one that can make you happy. So move on you should have never of married a man who was living at home with moma

Answer 4

Move far away.
I told my OWN parents once, that if they didn't start behaving I would not ALLOW my children to see them, I would not expose 'em to them.
And pretty soon, they began to settle down.

But you - get away from them.

It may be hard to imagine, but they may have your husband's best interest in heart - just like no man is ever good enough for daddy's little girl, the reverse is sometimes true too.

Answer 5

Lord have mercy, I can certainly relate! I've been down this identical road and I know from experience it isn't easy! Just do all you can to help them out around the house. After all, they ARE allowing you both to stay with them so you have to give them credit in that respect. Just get out as much as you can. Avoid them but don't be rude about it and keep looking around for places while waiting just so you can get out from under their thumb! Good luck!

Answer 6

You will have to make enough money to get out of their home.

Is there something wrong with your capability to make enough money to pay rent?

In laws are always a problem....I can't imagine living with them, but then again, I would at least make an effort to get another residence while you are waiting on the housing association.

I imagine there is more to your story. Please add more.

Answer 7

you posted in the trying to concieve section, but how i would handle it, would be to get out of that situation. move out on your own. if money is an issue, then id try to find a better job so that i could get out of that situation. or talk to you husband. tell him that they are making you life hell and you cant handle it anymore. he needs to be willing to work with you, or else it isnt going to work

Answer 8

id say move out \to anywhere u can until u n your husband can live independently and if ur husband isnt backing u with his parents breaking u down like that then maybe he isnt such a great husband.....good luck

Answer 9

oh susan that is terrible..living with the in laws for 6yrs..hm not good..
try to ignore hun...ur moving out soon...so dont pay much attention to them..be nice of course/ so when u guys move out u guys move out with a good relationship...but bn nice doesnt mean that u should care 2everything they say/or do...just dont stress out 2much...do ur own thing..try not to b around them a lot...and keep in mind that soon ur living ur own life w.hubby.

Answer 10

Why I can't even answer this...you'd get very pissed if I did...