is love marriage better or arange marriage better
2007-03-12 05:12:09 · 10 answers · asked by subha1a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on the people getting married. If they are going into the marriage with trust, respect and a drive to make the marriage work, then it will work, regardless of whether or not they picked their partner or if their parents did. If they have unrealistic expectations or aren't willing to compromise, then the marriage is doomed to fail. Love is great, but it's not the only thing you need in a marriage. You also need to work at it.
2007-03-12 05:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love marraiges are with for prefrences, not your families. In an arranged marriage the bride and groom are asked for their choices too. These days they are even allowed to date. It's not only the parents who decide. Secondly, parents choose the one who could be compatible with whole family and not just the son or daughter. While people opting out for love marriages rarely think about compatibility of their spouses with their family.
Couple invloved in arranged marriages require more time to understand each other. However, people involved in love marriages are no better. They believe they understand their partner until they get married. Later, a lot of things are a discovery to them.
I arranged marriages, we wonder about our compatibility with the partner. I love marraige, we wonder about our partners compatibility with our family.
In India, success rate of arranged marriages is far higher than that of love marraiges. In the west, where love marraiges are predominant, divorce rates are far higher. Abstract forms of relationships have come into picture.
Marraige is like singing a duet song when you know nothing about the rythm and the lyrics. Both invloved should contribute perfectly. They gotta knw when to pitch in and when to stay mum. They gotta balance the melody when the other is out of tune.
Success of a marriage, be it love or arranged, depends more on the roles of the persons participating. Be it a love marraige or an arranged marraige, if the partners are not committed, it just won't work. Higher the level of commitment and understanding, happier the married life.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-12 08:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always arranged marriage. Love marriage is not reliable for all. I advice u never go for love marriage for best security. Such most important critical step of shaping your future life of about next 5 decades or more should be very-very carefully planned & assessed from every angle before taking final decision. Love marriage does not provide satisfactory answers of all doubts & questions which an arranged marriage does. Decision is in your hands.
2007-03-15 01:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While Im all for LOVE ....most people who choose their own partners are NOT marrying for LOVE , they are marrying for LUST ! Long ago couples had long drawn out courtships so they could determine if they were compatible...not just attracted to each other. Nowadays everyone just runs out and gets married without considering weither or not the can actually live together ( have you seen the divorce rate lately? ) I think there is some merit to arranged marriage.....these couples go into it without the expectation of " FOREVER LUST "....they marry hoping they will be friends.....and LOVE will come later.
2007-03-12 07:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by RedHairedTempest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I Think So It Depends Upon The Perosn To Whom Ur Getting Married, Even Upon U Also I Think Its Doesnt Matter If Its Love Or Arrange.
2007-03-12 05:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by blueblood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't many who's tried both to justify, if at all theres any, I ask em are they happy now? Will they continue to be?
In my view both are good coz after all you are getting a partner for life. (Go by your own instincts) And every product comes with a limited Guarantee/warranty.
1. In the former you buy out of your own choice, you believe your instincts, U feel, u touch, u satisfy before u pay and in the latter your parents advertise, they dont touch, feel or satisfy; They just go by the BRAND NAME!!
2. Well in the former case one enjoys before and complains later and in the latter case one complains first and enjoys later.(50/50)
Order today Sweet CORN, BITTER Chocolate, HOT n SWEET flavour called "LIFE".
Cheers!!!
2007-03-12 06:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by greymatter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically, people are happier in an arranged marraige and arranged marriages have fewer divorces.
2007-03-12 05:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my view arrange marriage is better
2007-03-12 05:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by teju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
luv iz better den arranged
2007-03-12 07:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love conquers all :)
2007-03-12 05:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋