My girlfriend broke up with me in the very beginning of Febuary. Before going out her and I were friends and we hung out a lot. When we were going out we hung out pretty much every day. After breaking up she insisted on remaining friends with me. I agreed and we are now friends. I treated her really well and was there for her through a rough time in her life (brain surgery, and depression), and i helped her get through it. She knows that i care about her and that i will always be there for her. Here is the problem. Before breaking up she would contact me to hang out or even just to talk either through the computer or telephone. Now after breaking up she does not contact me. If she does it is a rarity. It seems like I have to initiate all contact with her. I have not really talked to her since the last time we hung out (about a week ago). (i did once to get a phone number for somone i needed to call for work.) After hanging out she always says she had a great time and....
2007-03-12 05:08:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she never does. It seems like i have to iniatiate ALL contact with her. It is just weird because it seems like i am the only one working on the friendship and that she is using me.. for what i dont know. Should i confront her? I do not want to make it seem like i am hung up on her and that i am upset about her not calling. Is she playing games? She is pretty straightfoward, so if she wasnt having fun or didnt want to be my friend, she would have told me. What should i do? This is real frustrating
2007-03-12 05:10:30 · update #1
WOW!!!!
i'm going to be nice... but i just went through this with a really good friend of mine... i tried to talk to her, for him, then i talked to him nicely, but ended up talking to him man-to-man, to knock some sense into his thick skull.
he's a great guy, but wasn't able to "let it go", and would have his relatieves call the girl. Same situation, they were best friends while being together, after she want's nothing to do with him.
reason 1(most likely scenario), it's tough for a lot of people to move on, if you are constantly around the person you tried to move on from.
future: once she's over you- as a man, she will contact you as a friend (if you still want her as a friend).
reason2 (also likely), she REALLY doesn't want ANYTHING to do with you.
near future: she will avoid you.
future: there is NO future for the 2 of you.
What happened to REAL men??????? I come from a different culture (i used to not let go also, but that was before i turned 21), where boys become MEN as they mature, not the other way oround.
WHY would you wan't to hang out with someone who does NOT want to hang out with you.
Call her one more time, if you absolutely HAVE to have closure, and ask her in a very calm matter about what happened to you two. But if she doesn't respond or starts a fight (remember you have to be calm), then say good bye, and NEVER contact her again. There is no need to break the 500-text-messages-per hour record.
YOU DID everything you could.
now, this is how you become a man vs. a wet rag.
MAN-UP, COWBOY-UP, grow some Cojones.
Look in the mirror and imagine that you have confidence.
LET IT GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
or as the Beatles said it: "Let it be, let it be...."
p.s. there is very little logic in most womens' thought process, especially when it comes to relationships, they are all about emotions and deep meanings of things. Plus, they are not sure why they do some things, they have 8th sence or intuition. So even if she wants to explain, she might not be able to, or you as a pragmatic creature (and beleive me, even if you are not, compare to ANY woman you still are) would not understand.
2007-03-12 06:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've told us, I don't think she's acting weird. It's not strange for friends to hang out or talk just once a week. Sometimes I can go a whole month without contacting any of my friends. I think maybe she has moved on, but you have not.
You aren't her boyfriend anymore so she isn't going to treat you like you are.
EDIT: Just let her go. If she isn't contacting you, there is a reason. If it really bothers you, talk to her about it..as a friend.
2007-03-12 05:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Hey you! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody says the want to remain friend with their ex's, but no one ever really means it. And I'd say if your ex wanted to hang out, she'd initiate more contact with you. Time to let go.
2007-03-12 05:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is not acting weird...it's just that she has broken up with u and everything is over now.....u should accept this fact and remain only friends as she is no more interested in a relationship...
2007-03-12 05:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋