i discovered this when he left his mailbox open and he comunicates with the ladies from the adult friends finder help me wat can i do with a cheating husband. i have a child with him and we have been married for 2and half years.
2007-03-12 05:07:21 · 29 answers · asked by vanessa m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh heck! You need to confront him on his behaviour hun, don't keep quiet about this, the problem won't go away on it's own. good luck, I think you'll need it.
KB
2007-03-12 06:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. It's a tough one - especially when you consider that all he's doing is communicating with other women - is he really cheating? Do you consider it cheating, or are you just jealous that he keeps secrets from you?
In my opinion, most relationships benefit from a few secrets which people can keep in order to identify themselves as individuals. If your concerns are for your child or marriage, then you have to start talking to him and letting him know how you feel about it - it's then out in the open and up to him to decide how he can deal with the situation.
If, however, you find the whole situation completely unacceptable and view his behaviour as tantamount to adultery, then gather evidence of any infidelity, which will prove enormously helpful if you ever find yourself visiting a divorce lawyer. But I recommend this as an entirely last resort - the best course of action, normally, is for people to just talk to each other and be honest while they're talking. You may find a reason for his chatting with ladies online and it might be a lot less sinister than you think - maybe he just gets turned on by it!
2007-03-12 05:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by PETER G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
please don't take this pain from this creep. Cheaters out there do it because they need the thrill and excitement that they cant get from a long term relationship. Problem with most cheaters is that they are cowards and cant face life alone so string some poor person along to give them their comfort zone. Being a man i think its really said that hes not only cheating on you but hes cheating on his children too. I don't have children as see acts like this as a sheer waste. Trust me there are guys out there that will love you and support your children too. Be careful about what you decide. Confront him and tell him how you feel. If he stops doing it then you know he still cares and its worth giving him a second chance. If he continues his actions send him packing. Life has a way of coming full circle. He will get whats coming to him.
Take care
Regards
idai
2007-03-12 07:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by idai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-29 18:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is hard for you, but you have to make some important decision. Is he going to help you raise your child and does he love you, or are you going to be a single parent raising your child and watch him break your heart. Either he is with you, or he is out the door. There are a lot of single Mom's out there doing what has to be done. They go to school, work jobs, raise their kids, live their lives. Be strong and don't think that he is the only Man on this planet. Trust me on this one. Don't have another child by him until you are sure he will stay home. I am betting he won't , talk is cheap and so are the ladies he is talking to.
2007-03-12 05:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by freesample1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine has a husband that has been doing the same thing. He goes on line and tells women that he's unhappily married and getting a divorce. He is clearly trying to find someone to have an affair with. My friend keeps trying to do things to "catch" him. (well....he's already been caught...she caught him on line !) Just because he hasn't been caught in the act doesn't mean that he's not cheating. Actively looking is equal to cheating. My friend is fooling herself as to what is going on. She constantly wants me and her other friends to tell her that "it's nothing", and that "he's a good guy", and that "he's not cheating", and that "she can do things to change him", and that "because he's deleted his account, he's not doing it anymore". Well it's all a big bunch of B.S. He cancels one account, then sets up another, and she's caught him at that too!!!!!!!!!!!
All men/women aren't the same. But on-line "shopping" for affairs seems to be an epidemic these days. It works. Alot of people complain about this.
As hard as it would be to do, you should probably move on or else it's going to ruin your self-esteem. You deserve 100% love, loyalty, honesty and commitment.
Take care.
2007-03-12 06:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Hammy40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem a few months ago with the father of my son. (See the question I asked from my profile)
I confronted him and told him how much it pissed me off. He's really cut down and I'm not really worried anymore. He comes home to you at night and has a family with you so hopefully he knows where his priorities are. He says he just does it cause he's bored. So try to find things to keep him interested. It sucks being young parents. I bet you just want him to stay home and take care of your child that you have together. Men don't get it.
Mine still tries to sneak on there when I'm not around. Men are just stupid and they can't help themselves.
Smash his computer.. break his webcam.. call him a f'ing wan.ker..
2007-03-12 05:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do in my opinion is to confront your husband,tell him about what you've discovered if you haven't told him yet and ask him why he is doing it to you.He's not only cheating you but he's also cheating his child.Tell him to stop it because you don't like it,and he's risking your marriage if he isn't planning on ruining it.And if he doesn't stop,then you must choose,whether you leave him or just let him cheat and disrespect you until time comes,he'll be the one to say,good bye.
2007-03-12 05:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Carla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce, obviously you’re husband is not in love with you anymore. Very hard to admit, but it’s true. Make sure you will get everything you deserved as far as financially concerns. You guys haven’t been married for a long time, yet he’s already doing this to you… He’s not worth it and he's very disrespectful.
Sorry about that and Good Luck to you...!
2007-03-12 05:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. Is he really cheating? Maybe he's looking for some excitement just. Maybe he doesn't intend to cheat and you and he's playing a "role" (does he lie in these communications?). If so, maybe you can do some role play (not easy with a child but you need to work it out), send him some kinky emails, invite him to a hotel room etc...
If he's really cheating, then you need to work out if you are ready to forgive, if he's ready to change ...
It's always harder to make decision when a child is involved so ..good luck!
2007-03-12 05:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by jol22n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him thats all you can do, remember he is in the w3orng so dont go causing trouble with the women. I know some people do this automatically, maybe something turns him on he doesnt dare ask you to do?? tell him to be open and honest, then give him a good *** whooping for being a cheating scum bag!
sorry but i hate guys that cheat
2007-03-12 05:10:54 · answer #11 · answered by sugar cherry hooters 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋