2007-03-12 05:03:58 · 22 answers · asked by billu b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't love the one you're married to, you shouldn't have married them in the first place
2007-03-12 05:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming the love is equally in return and not an act of infactuation......
It is a very sticky situation. If you honestly love the one you have not married, perhaps you need to start looking at other options. But my first and firm belife is that no one should be "forced" to love anyone.
1. Take into consideration how it will effect both you and your partner in this marriage. If you honestly love another, can you stay faithful (not just sexually but spiritually) to your partner?
2. Take into consideration of the choices you have: A.) Is divorce an option? Many people do not believe in divorce, but if you honestly cannot be with the one you are with now, and it honestly does not work out, what other choice do you have? B.) Is staying with your partner an option? If you are having doubts that maybe you don't love this other person, perhaps you might be better off staying within the marriage.
Bottom line is, we all have choices. No matter what we do, whether we choose the 'right' choice, or the 'wrong' one, consequence is the price we pay. Be irrational, and you will have to pay a price. Do what you think everyone else would find acceptable, then you will pay another price. Use the values and knowledge that is instilled within you, and go from there. Some might not agree, but also, listen to you heart and mind, and make sure values, morals and intelligence is a main ingrediant to the equation when solving your dilema.
Make the wrong choice, and you can lose both.
Make the right choice....and it could mean having your ever-after.
2007-03-12 09:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tapanga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a girld or boy< Boys do not have problems. They get adjusted. Even girls do not feel anything. Loving is different from marryhing. During youth, you love many and like too many and real love is towards Only One and One only. Understand, whether it is True Love. If so, allow the other guy get married. Naturlally, you feel no sorry and you get married with another guy and be happy for ever.
2007-03-16 01:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by sr50kandala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just wondering why you don't marry the
one you love. If you marry the other one it
is not fair you her or you if you love some-
one else. I don't understand how anyone
will benefit from it? You should really think
about what the future will hold for everyone.
And then you bring children into the picture
and that is something all together differnt.
2007-03-12 05:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by allisterfiendll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one solution: Either you love the one you marry or marry the one you love.
2007-03-13 00:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by jammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live with your decision and be miserable for eternity or you can leave the one your going to marry and marry the person you actually love. It isn't fair to marry someone and not give 100% to the woman/man, they are devoting themselves to you, and you are living a lie... not fair at all.
2007-03-12 05:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing unusual. In India there are no parents' restrictions upon their sons/daughters in love affairs, but they order them to marry parents' choice only except their loved ones.
Looking at two girls, X told Y that they are his wife and girl friend. Y told X that he too wanted to tell the same to X.
2007-03-12 08:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre not in love with the person youre going to marry?
call off the wedding. peace
2007-03-12 05:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to love someone and not marry
BUT do not marry and love another
bad for u, ur spouse
2007-03-16 04:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Hungry soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can go Further with Love ones
2007-03-15 23:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by rum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋