2007-03-12 05:00:11 · 9 answers · asked by happiness 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Try listening more and talking less...
2007-03-12 05:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by uwaiu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meditation, and self inquiry.
Everyone has personality flaws. Do you know what yours are? Do you know why you have them? Do you know what other people do and do not like about you? Do you know what you do and do not like about yourself?
The first step to self improvment is to analyze yourself. Do it daily. Spent half an hour a day even just considering what you did during the day. Who did you offend? Who did you make happy? what did you do that you weren't satisfied with? What did you do that you're happy about?
First, identify your behavior. Identify why you do what you do. Identify what effect it has.
Second, make a commitment to change your behaviors that you aren't satisfied with. Even small steps at a time.
Continue this and you will find new behaviors to contend with, and if you contend with them, you will become slowly more and more to your own satisfaction.
Do not let your personality be determined by others though. Even if others say you are wrong, or bad in certain ways, you must honestly know for yourself that your behavior is wrong or bad. Only once you honestly believe it, can you honestly change it. Doing otherwise is to put on a facade, to trick the world, and to trick yourself...but if nothing is really changed, it will only harm you more than do good.
You are your own judge. You are your own personal trainer. You are your own therapist, if only you would let yourself be these things. You will learn more by simply asking yourself questions on a daily basis, than a psychologist will reveal in a thousand years.
The only one who will ever truely know you, is you. So, to become the best you that you can be, you must develop a personal relationship with yourself. If you want to know more about someone else, or to help someone else, you must ask them questions right? You must learn what you can about them, right?
We so rarely do this with ourselves, however. We "think" we know ourselves, but if you really start asking, you might surprise yourself from time to time. You might learn more about yourself than you knew there was to learn.
The more you learn, the more you can change as appropriate, and the better you will become.
2007-03-12 05:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By pinpointing exactly the flaws in your personality. Work on one area at a time.
Attempt to have empathy for others.
2007-03-12 05:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something wrong with your personality?
If so, having some idea of what that is would be helpful.
There are things you can change, others you can't -- you were born that way, though there are ways to minimize their worse aspects.
But without any relevant details, we can't help you.
2007-03-12 07:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand what make you, you. What do you enjoy in other people and try to improve that trait in yourself. Do not be indecisive about what makes you, you. Don't change your self around different people to make them happy.
2007-03-12 05:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Oilfieldtrashwtx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By trying to identify your behaviors and chucking out the ones that are dysfunctional.
2007-03-12 05:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to mix with different people and maybe it will bring out a different side of your personality
2007-03-12 05:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by catriona f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking to much about people around u
2007-03-12 05:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by searching~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill yourself
2007-03-12 05:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋