I have visited her family a few times and they do not like me because I am Asian. They have shown distaste for our relationship. I know they are quite proud to be white in Scandinavia. Is there anyway I can change her family's mind about me? I have never done anything to be dishonorable towards her family. The only reason her family does not like me is because I am Asian. It frustrates me very much because they make me feel like I am not worthy of my wife and I am starting to feel that way and it makes me depressed. We have a daughter together and I am not sure if her family even likes our daughter.
2007-03-12 04:54:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her family has no business in your relationship. If your wife loves, she is the only opinion you need to concern yourself with...... They are nothing but biggots.......and you be proud of your heritage....... I bet your daughter is gorgeous!!!! I would recommend that you keep her away form them........ She has no need to feel the way you are about this situation. It will end up making her depressed and make her feel bad about herself........ Those people are a disgrace!
2007-03-12 05:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times parents do not seem to like the choices their daughter makes. But she is your wife, they cannot change that.
My b/f is Filipino and i am white. It took awhile for my parents to accept him. But he makes me happy and has always been good to me and my children.
Keep up the good work by not being dishonorable and continue to be good to your wife and child. they are most important. sooner or later they will realize you are worthy and will be accepted.
As far as your daughter goes, the only one going to suffer the grandparents. With the love you and your wife have for your daughter she needs no other. However your wifes parents will miss out being a grandparent and that is their loss.
Keep a smile on your face, they want to break you, don't let them.
2007-03-12 05:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being multiracial, I know what it's like to be disliked simply because of your ethnicity. It's ignorance, and unfortunately those people will always exist. Continue to be the decent, honorable person that you are. You can't make them like you. Once I asked someone, what I could have done differently to be born a different race, obviously they could not answer me. No one chooses their ethnicity, you just wake up one day and realize you're what you are. How stupid to hate someone for something they had no control over. Asians are good, honorable people with high values and principals. Do not let someone foolish depress or bring you down. Stay away from them. They are not worthy of your company.
2007-03-12 05:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! yesterday I read your problem,and I gave some input but when I tried to send it,you took off your question,,,,,,why??
I know how you feel, I'm from Hawaii and married this man who was in the navy then. But yours is a bit different than mine. Your in laws doesn't deserve your kindness, love, and attention.You do not have to please them because of your wife. Remember that its you that married their daughter and your wife knows how they feel towards you and most of all you didn't marry her family,just her.
Don't let this influence your life,esp. your own daughter, if those people doesn't care about her because of you and the color of your skin, then it will be their lost. Your a strong man if your not,you will not ask for some guidance from us, as long as you and your wife knows how you feel from each others,then that's the most important of life. If you can,try not to visit them anymore and tell your wife how you feel,it will not make you a monster. The color of our skin does not justify their behavior towards you and your baby, God is the only one that can judge people, not them.
You did nothing wrong,so don't let them win by getting depressed now. Wash your hands of,off them, you don't owe them anything.......I hope that this help, and if you want to talk,I'm here to listen.................good luck!
2007-03-12 05:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. My wife is Japanese and her family had a hard time with our marriage because I am black.
Don't spend your time and energy worrying about her family they may never like you.
Focus your energy keeping your marriage healthy and happy and being the best father that you can be.
Remember your wife chose to marry you which means you are worthy.
2007-03-12 05:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's amazingly puzzling to alter the minds of bigots. dont even attempt your spouse needless to say loves you for who you're, enable that be adequate for now. In time as her kinfolk get to renowned you greater effective they could come to understand how stupid they are being. your spouse chosen you that makes you very worth off her and you have a new child in the event that they dont take the time that's merely they who will omit out
2016-10-02 00:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by finkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that you can change their attitude. In my opinion have with them limited contact the people who believe that they are better then the others (and it happens in every race) are just stupid and not worth to be with.
2007-03-12 05:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by bibus75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good luck, most people who are close minded about a different race will never change. all you can do is care for the woman you care about and maybe someday they will open their closed minds and accept you for the man you are and not just a different race!
2007-03-12 05:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just beacuse you are asian, doesent make you more or less of a person worry about your family in short "**** them" you have a family do your best for them and they will do do their best for you. as for everybody else treat them with respect and if they cant return the jesture. it just shows what kinda person they are, in mississippi we call them shallow, assholes or targets....
2007-03-12 05:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought scandinavians were nice ppl
anyhow, as long as the 3 of u r happy, y should anything else be important?
2007-03-14 11:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋