suicide is really tempting whenever it crosses my mind that my hubby might also be cheating on me..
2007-03-12 04:35:18 · 59 answers · asked by kiss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't love your husband. Suicide don't solve anything.
2007-03-12 04:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Gersin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Suicide is useless... it hurts those left behind & doesn't solve the issues. What u left here will be w/ you 4 eternity, My husband was caught in a bar w/ his arm around another woman 2 years ago . All his friends & co workers were present as I watched 4, 20 minutes . Mr. smooth was smooth. After pleading & begging to stay in my life I took him back. We moved tried to start a new life. Never worked. We split again & this time I caught him in bed . w/ her . At that point I realized it wasn't me ....never me . The man has a problem he will never fix . I do not want to share in his problem anymore. I want a good life . During these times I met a few wonderful men who could have made me happy but I chose to be the devoted wife 4 good reason. I was wrong to stay. He made his bed now he must sleep in it. When u sleep w/ dogs u get fleas. He got more than he bargained 4 this time. Never again will he be blessed with a good woman. The one he has now is not good & one day he'll regret what he has done . Its too late now B/C I can't even cry about him . I do wish I would have let those good men in my life at that time , but Im sure there will be others. If i could have changed things I would . I would have left the !st time he didn't come home . Now He is gone which is good I have my needs right here & I don't have to leave. I am not jealous. I hope one day he cleans his act up 4 someone eles. I already had curtain call..... The standing ovation will be when that man walks into my life....The ONE that will really loves me & not just says that he does. U r sticking around just b/c & you r not happy . Put your life w/ someone eles that really wants you.Someone that you can believe in. Someone you can be proud of...........Someone you can love........and most of all someone who will love u back.......
2007-03-12 05:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by htrime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could cheat and still love someone. You just aren't treating them like you love them. There's a difference. You may love someone but have no self control. You need some therapy I think. Also, I think the reverse guilt is common. There was even a Dane Cook comedy skit on this. However, if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, this is serious. You should at least look into some free help or call a 1-800 number in the front of the phone book for these kind of situations. If you have the money, think about seeing a therapist. It's nothing to be ashamed of, since it will help both you and your spouse in the long run.
2007-03-12 04:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by CandyLandCondoResident 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you may still love your husband. Sometimes having an affair doesn't mean that you don't love your spouse. It's obviously not good though. Why don't you stop your affair? Are you upset with your husband? Mad at him for some reason? If he is having an affair then both of you need to sit down and talk. Suicide is never the answer. You two should go see a marriage counselor. You need it. Good luck.
2007-03-12 04:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably do love your husband, but it sounds more like you are self-centered. Not that it is a bad thing, most people are selfish, but self-centered is when you consider only how things affect you. For example, you are having an affair to fulfill something in your life that should be fulfilled by your husband. You are jealous because you don't want your husband to be giving any attention to anyone but you. Suicide thoughts need to be dealt with. Don't entertain those thoughts - talk with a professional.
2007-03-12 04:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ma Dukes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do love your husband, its yourself you have a problem with. You are not just cheating on your husband you are cheating on yourself. You are behaving in a way that dishonours who you are and it will undoubtedly cause the end of your marriage as it should. However by taking these risks I believe that you don’t feel worthy of the effort it takes to make a marriage work. And despite loving your husband your are doing something that makes you harder to love in return.
If I may pose you a question or two? Why do you do this, why do you cheat on someone who loves you. Why are you not all that you were born to be, the woman this man fell in love with?
I suspect that the answer is because you don’t feel that you are good enough to be loved as you are.
2007-03-12 04:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having an affair if you love your husband? This sounds like a really screwed up relationship. And you want to commit suicide because he is doing the same thing you are? You need counseling.
2007-03-12 04:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, go get some professional help. Maybe even marriage counseling if you two decided to try and work things out.
Second, if you're questioning whether or not you love your husband, that's your answer right there. If you loved him you would know. There's a difference between loving someone and being over controling and jealous in a relationship.
Now go get some help.
2007-03-12 05:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by bluestar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's what you need to do. You need to come clean and quit the affair and come clean. Then strip yourself naked, write "I'm sorry, I love you and I will do anything to stay with you" across your naked chest. Then handcuff (real ones no escape latch) yourself to the bed and await your husband's return (length of time you decide to spend cuffed to the be should be in relation to how much you feel you need to suffer for your misdeeds. If your husband decides not to release you, then you will know you are screwed, have someone you trust call you in the am to be sure you did finally get uncuffed. Takes a LOT of trust to do this, I think its what you both need.
2007-03-12 04:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by tyemetght814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An overly jealous wife having an affair? Oh, that is classic. Please, figure out which man means more to you and stay with that one. No one deservers to be cheated on except for a cheater themselves. I figure that is why you are so jealous. You are cheating therefore, you suspect your husband of cheating. Get help!
2007-03-12 04:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by jbhurst01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is not the answer for anything, and if you don't want it done to you then why are you doing it to him, have you ever heard the saying what goes around comes around....
anyway you have to tell him and get it out in the open or it is only going to get worse...do you really want to live like that? maybe he feels the same way you do but not talking about it you are going to go crazy so get it off your chest.
Good Luck
2007-03-12 04:43:47 · answer #11 · answered by Island Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋