Teen Sex Today?

Question

Why is everyone so obsessed with teens having sex? HELLO, teens have been having sex since the beginning of time, this is nothing new. To me the problem is around the late 19th century we decided we should put off responsibility until we are a little older. So we said lets prolong childhood into the teens and call it adolescence. Up until that point by 16 you were married and having kids and you also had a JOB. Teens have always been having sex and it will never stop. The problem is we turned teens into children depending on their parents instead of young adults supporting themselves. That is why we turned teen pregnancy into a travesty where as 200 years ago it would have been a celebration. This may be a radical idea but I think we need to go back to the old days and have teens be contributors of society instead of leaches that suck off their parents until they are 18+.

Do you agree or disagree?

I agree that teens need to be more responsible when it comes to sex with the key word being Responsible. When something happens they run to mommy and daddy for help. If they were taking care of themselves they would be more cautious with their actions. I guess what I am saying is that I wish things didn't change but like another poster said the world probably would be even more over populated than it is now because people are living longer.

Answer 1

I agree that with the fact that they try to keep us as little kids and then cry when we don't act 'all grown up'? uh. what else are we supposed to do!? 18 is forever to move out and be on our own. We are stuck for two or three years in a place where we have nothing. We aren't allowed to leave and it seems like everything is going against us. THAT SUCKS!!!

Answer 2

Your objection is right and deserves deepening. The talk you put can be linked with sex /sexuality & body at large, considering every taboo, discrimination and ban around.
By some answer ago I just was writing that any people born naked and once nudity just was a natural fact. Beside, during infancy any child gets no prejudice and embarassment towards naked bodies. Society and civilitation have took to the extreme lately. It's true, once at 15-16 y/o girls had to get married while boys already were working hard helping family budget. That means maturity and awareness came in advance and anything just was moved back. Thus, teens having sex wasn't an opprobrium or a forbideen fact.
On the other hand, nowadays anything is moved forward, maturity, study, youth, work, marriage, death, etc.
Well, you ask us for more independence trust and regard towards young, but my question is - are then you able to manage that? - I see the most part of guys at 18 y/o still look like children even being glad to be pampered. Sure, parents could treat all teens as adult but for you that just implies no college, no holidays, no gym, no playstation, no sport, no idleness, no constant & sweet care, etc. etc. It's easy talking about freedom and responsability when you know there is parents help in the back. Today teenagers have sex and get pregnant but either the baby often is adopted or just are parents to support anything! Sons stay with parents until old age because they just aren't able to sustain alone or because their demands are endless!
Parents guilt is due to much love only!

Answer 3

The reason teens were allowed to have sex then (females) was the fact that after your period started you could give birth and add a child to your family to help in the family and in the community.A child was not only a child but an assect.Most of the time the child had no say in what they would become of do with their life espically woman.The male was a worker and could be sent on battle frontlines and the woman would be stuck at home with children,was as she was just a child herself.Alot of times young woamn were made to marry adult men whom could control her.nNow Im guessing you are a teen,and you feel as you have the wrong end of the stick.Think of it this way,would you give up your life just for sex?Because if you were able to deside between living then and living now and choose then,you would be giving up any freedom you had at all.The diffrence between you as a teen and a teen then is the fact we have given yopu to many choices period.Back then a female had no choice if she wanted sex,she had to have sex if that was what was desired from her.Im sure she would have much rather been a normal child with normal things to do.The world has changed so much from then to today.Granted,we have made a lot of good,but alot of bad.When you are with your parents until you are 18,you are being prepared for the real world,and somtimes even good parents can't prepare you for whats instore outside your homes walls.So you think its okay for teens to have sex?Well granted im thankfull they do because I wouldnt be here if they didnt.Im adopted.My birthmother was 15 when she became pregnant with me.My birthfather was 23.I am the result of a broken condom.What exactly would you be able to do with a baby?If you are a male,would you just stick if off on the mother leaving her to raise and provide for the child?Would you stay with her and work,yet letting her have no life (and I dont mean partying,I mean fullfilling her dreams)and if you are a female,one of these two things would happen to you so what are you going to do?After all this,it still doesnt mean your ready even after your 18.Even if you have sex and no pregnancy was to occur,you are still at risk for contracting and spreading STD'S.Although many adults are at fault for this also,stuys have proven that it is more likly to happen with teens.Your not envincible and all it takes if for your future girl/boy to sleep with one other person who has slet with someone else,who slept with someone else who has an STD.There are so many things that go along with having sex.Now im by no means saying you should or should have to wait until marriage.Its better to do so,but not nessacerry.I was not a virgin when I entered the relationship I am in now,whom by the way is with the man im marring in 6 months.I dont regret having other partners before him,I somtimes wish I would have waited,because I know how special sex can be between two that are in for the long haul.Its a whole nother' kind of sex.As of now your body is telling you to do what feels good,but that doesnt just mean sex.There are many other outlets other than sex.My point is,I disagree with what you are saying.!8 is a perfect time for kids to head out on their own.All I can ask is be safe and try to make somthing of yourself.

EDIT:one more thing,I like the answer right above mine.If a teen does have a child and they dont' put if up for adoption,they still leech to their parents.

Answer 4

I agree. I have been working since I could at the age of 15 1/2. I have been living on my own since I was 17. So is nothing new from back in the days... I think a mother and Father should put more responsibility on their children. Now a days they get babied way to much. My grama had 12 kids and the first one was at the age of 17 and she had been married for a year already. But also back then mothers didn't work all they did was stay home and take cear of the kids.

Answer 5

Most teens who have sex don't really love the person..having sex today seems like a fad...and if you haven't done it, then there is something wrong with you. It's sad.

I don't believe true love really exist and if it does, it's really rare,most people are in it just for sex.

Plus teens have sex with people they more then likely will brake up with sooner or later...then they get with someone else..they have sex and the same thing happens over again. before you know it, they had sex with a bunch of people. it seems odd having sex with someone that your not going to be with for the rest of your life.

Also, the reason why it was ok for teens to have sex and had babies a long time ago is because people didin't live as long as they do now. They also got married younger too.

Answer 6

I disagree, b/c the only reason that people were getting married at 16 and having babies and all that was because people only lived to see their 30's or 40's! If we went back to that thinking, the world would become EXTREMELY overpopulated, b/c of people living so long! And now, kids are lazy anyways, which is WHY some of them are "leaches that suck off their parents until they are 18+". Think about it.

Answer 7

alot of people are worried more then obessed 200 years ago is the past they didnt have to worry like we do now.. teens need to worry about schoolin so they can get a good job andtake care of them selves.. teens theses days are still kids in their mind they dont know how to act like adults and take care of themselves some do some dont but alot still think its fun to go out on the weekends to their friends or movies or whatever but they depend on mommy and daddy to take them pick them up and give them money.. when a teen has a kid their mom or dad have to take care of it then over half the time the other half ( the boy or as they call theselves men) dont want to help they say well it aint mine or other stuff they want to play but not pay!!! thats why people are either obsessed or worried

Answer 8

ALOT has changed in the 200 years that you are speaking of. You are right in that teens need to be given alot more responsibility now but definately not the responsibility of raising a child on their own. Now days they would just pawn their babies off on the grandparents anyway.

I was a very responsible 12 year old and was babysitting children with no adult supervision....I couldn't imagine leaving my children with any 12 year old now as I have yet to meet one lately that holds as much responsibility.

Answer 9

I disagree, The reason why I do is because look at all the STd's that are out there, AIDS is at its highest ever. I do belive children need responsibilities to prepare them for the adult world. I dont think they should be out there playing russian roullete with their lives eigther to many STD's out there and if they contract AIDS its basically the end. Back in the days they probably didnt have half the diseases we have now adays and its just plain dangerous

Answer 10

I agree that teens should be more accountable for their lives and their actions.
You ask what is wrong with teens having sex. That can lead to pregnancy and most of the time their parents are left raising a grandchild for them. Kids having kids.