My best friend's only brother, 26 yrs old and recently engaged, was flying a plane, and had just gotten his pilot's license last Spring. Something went wrong and he did a nose dive and crashed, died. I am so torn up about it. He was such a good person, so ambitious, and didn't deserve to die so young and so tragically. I don't know what to say to comfort her. She is devastated, and I could barely make out what she was saying over the phone. I went to see her at home and she was curled up on the floor sobbing hysterically. I just held her and cried with her. I felt so bad for not saying anything at all. What could I have said? His funeral is in 2 days and I want to be there for her through the grieving process.
2007-03-12 04:05:02 · 5 answers · asked by Klum 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are doing the right thing already. It doesn't always take many words to console, just an open ear. Let her know that you are there for her and that you will listen to hear when she needs to talk or cry. You are such a great friend, I wish you both the best as you go through the grieving process together.
2007-03-12 04:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard to know what to say to someone who has lost a loved one. There's really nothing that can be said to take away the pain. They just have to feel what they feel. Grieving is indeed a process. Each day moves her a little farther away from the pain. Just be there for her. You did the best thing you could have by just crying with her. You can't imagine how much that means. I lost my sister, and there was really nothing I wanted to hear. The person who helped me the most was my precious friend who just sat with me and sobbed. Just be there.
2007-03-12 04:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um what precisely is a plane/automobile coincidence? basically convenience them and that's alright to be unhappy in case your very close with the relatives yet do not over do the crying or issues might want to get... er strange. and get them some thing that could want to cheer them up like possibly a photograph of a cat with a stupid hat on or some thing. sorry i visit no longer help you more beneficial reason i in undemanding words learn about one individual who died at the same time as I actually were living.
2016-12-01 21:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by maritza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were there, which is basically all you can do.
Of course you feel helpless.
That's because you are.
Plenty of time to talk with your friend later.
Btw I think you wrote it down very well. Why don't you let her read your question? She might answer it for you.
2007-03-12 04:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything... just be there for her like you did...
Just tell her it's ok that she is grieving and hold her when she needs to be hold...
2007-03-12 04:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋