Especially in the case of the sudden, unexpected death of a parent
2007-03-12 03:46:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2007-03-12 03:57:37 · update #1
Just watch Ghost Whisperer friday night at 8:00 channel 3.
2007-03-12 04:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
We all live and we all die. There is a time for all of us to die. Losing a parent is never easy and the pain is always there. However, to cause yourself to believe they had unfinished business is just adding to the pain. The parent lived their life the way they were supposed to. We will all be reunited again. I would suggest explaining the true meaning of death to that person so they fully understand that death is only the beginning. Thank you and may GOD bless.
2007-03-12 11:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grieving process is different for all people, where religious and personal belief's play an important role.
There is though a timetable for that process:
1. Shock, sadness, depression
2. Spirituality, bargianing w/God, communication, therapy if needed
3. Exceptance, healing, communication
4. Moving forward
The grieving process should be approx. 3 years or less. If you are still crying all the time or depressed over the loss after 3 years a major physical and mental examination should be conducted.
So you as all of us out here have an issue with unresolved circumstances with your deceased parent.
As always: cherish the moment we have with each other and let your loved ones know that you care while they are alive.
That out of the way, lets look at your particular situation:
You must look at the relationship as a whole. Did you "put into it" as much as you could for the circumstances of the moment? Were your "intentions" good in the relationship? The intentions behind our thoughts is what is most important in our lives. Bad intentions or intentions that harbor jealousy, anger, revenge etc. are damaging to us and our loved ones. It is our "thought intentions" that God looks at.
Often-times the mental conciuosness of an individual will not allow another to get close. Our attitudes and our character reflect our relationship to loved ones and life in general.
Was your parent loving , happy and willing to meet you halfway?
We must remember that the past is unchangable for us. So we concentrate on the future and become better people for going through what we have endured. We take our lessons forward and incorporate inner meaningful change into our everyday lives.
This will change you: Let it be in honor of your loved one.
So now go out into the world again and develope a loving relationship with the living in your life. Patience and understanding you have learned the hard way.
Life chisels out our bad parts and what is left is a better you!
God started me out as a little person, I've been growing myself ever since.
You cannot go back. You "can" go forward and with wisdom, love and change. Loving even more your lost loved one and loved ones with you now. Your parent will be happy to see you change for the better and thier sacrifice will be for your benefit and honor them immensly. Death is an eternal sleep, like going to bed and not dreaming.
May your heart heal and your soul soar with good, loving intentions.
God Bless and Good Luck
2007-03-12 10:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too had a lot unfinished business when my mother died. I know now I will never know the answers to questions I would have liked resolved. At first it seem terrible but I found a counsellor and he helped me through it. Don`t be afraid eventually you will just accept that it is now too late, and you should not use up the rest of your life worrying. You owe it to yourself to enjoy your future and don`t dwell too much on the past, otherwise they are sill controlling you life. God-bless
2007-03-12 12:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know that myself because I'm still looking for the answer. Wish I could help you because I know how it feels. Only in my case it was my grandmother. She died five months ago and I don't know how to stop being angry about the whole thing. They say time heals all wounds but I'mnot so sure that I believe that.
2007-03-12 11:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do only learn to live with it & for yourself forgive them for whatever was happening at the time, my mother died wrn I was 15 and it was very sudden but it took me a very long time to realise that if I didn't forgive & get over it I couldn't get on with my life properly.
Otherwise get some councilling
2007-03-12 10:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by red lyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to a secluded place and scream for all you are worth. it will help get all the underlying tension out. you then need to confide in another family member you can trust or a good friend. it will take time, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. also see your GP and arrange some counselling with a bereavement counsellor. my thoughts are with you.
2007-03-12 10:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by val f1 nutter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You first have to forgive yourself, then you can forgive them. Don't be afraid to grieve, allow yourself to grieve for you too, its part of the healing process.
2007-03-12 11:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bob N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my dear i do feel for you i realy do in my case i just had an imaginary conversation with my dad and after that i dreamed of him when i woke i did feel that i was more released from the burden of guilt
2007-03-12 10:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Learn to let go. Or go to grief counseling.
2007-03-12 10:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋