me and my hubby had a pretty heavy arguement the other day and he told me that he still loves me but he doesnt care anymore... what does that mean?
2007-03-12 03:46:15 · 13 answers · asked by PyroPixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sometimes people say sh*t they dont mean when arguing.....talk to him about it after things settle down and i'm sure you'll see it was just anger talking.
2007-03-12 04:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by RedEye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without more information, it's hard to say difinitvely, what exactly that he means. I suspect that it means that he still loves you (and probably always will) BUT there is a problem or problems that has made it so that life with you is unbearable or he just can't take it anymore. This is his way of dealing with it.
I would think that your relationship is serious trouble and if he hasn't left you yet, it's coming very soon. I'm not taking his side but you have to understand that it's not enough just to love someone. I've known people that loved each other deeply but for whatever reason, they can't live together anymore. My mother-in-law was a shining example. She dearly loved her husband, more than anything on earth. However, he was a full blown alcoholic and the man basically chose the bottle over his wife and children. She had to leave him. She never, ever stopped loving him but could not live with the man anymore.
Anyway, if you love your husband, I'd suggest you ask him more about this, what does he mean by that. If you CAN work it out, compromise, etc, I'd strongly recommend doing it. Counseling might work and you should consider it.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 05:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a "lack of sex issue". Possibly the only time you two get intimate is when your feeling up to it? If this is the case, and you feel up to it once or twice a month, he may be tired of trying to get you in the mood, only to fail miserably once again. Contrary to what you think, men think about sex all of the time and we whould have it every day. After getting rejected so many times on a regular basis, even after we do what we are asked, we just stop asking...thus the not caring anymore. Most women are OK with the lack of intimacy and never say a word. When the man finally reaches his breaking point and says he "doesn't care", he has reached rock bottom and given up hope. Unless we get attention and affection in return without having to beg for it (beg enough and you get charity in return), it's a no-win situation for us. When this happens, it's the man's fault, even after the lack of affection for the women that is so apparant, yet unseen by the women herself.
Try talking to him and find out if there is something else that is bothering him. You may think everything is fine, but obvioulsy it's not. Unless you two open up and discuss it, it will never get better,
2007-03-12 04:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the fight was about. Maybe he just simply ment that he doesn't care about what the fight was about. Maybe he just got tired of fighting and gave in. If he's smart he realized that the woman is always right and he gave in.
Then again, it could also mean that he still loves you but doesn't care to be with you anymore. That also goes back to what the argument was about and what was said right before that comment.
2007-03-12 03:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has lost that emotional connection somewhat.
It probably means that he would not care if you took a lover on the side. Sounds like he loves you but would not care if you had a discreet fling on the side. That means he no longer loves you as a wife but more as a person.
Take this opportunity and go have yourself some fun. ;-)
2007-03-12 03:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hard for me to say exactly, but I would suggest that it means he is worn out emotionally. He still loves you but as for caring about you it is simply too damn hard, too much work or effort and it does him no good or he gets nothing in return.
just a thought, but it is impossible to say without knowing details of the argument. My advice, ask him what he meant!
2007-03-12 03:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by SirSmartAzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he told you this just to get inside your head. Sounds like the two of you need to spend some time alone soul searching and trying to find the "spark" that put you two together. You should plan a special "date night" for the two of you and go all out for him.
2007-03-12 03:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by chad_zortman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for clarification, not us. Maybe he doesn't care about the topic of disagreement. Maybe he doesn't care to continue to work on the relationship.
We can guess, but he knows, ask him.
2007-03-12 04:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bluntly he loves you but hes not going to put up with any crap like arguing he,s just fed up either get off his as,s or move on
2007-03-12 03:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what ever u want he just don't care he is tired of fighting about it.which means he don't like what ever it is. but you have beaten him and he just don't care. you won
2007-03-12 03:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋