How do you find your "self", do you find it in other people that mirror it for you?

Question

or where do you find it at? Is it in the little struggles that we each face each and every day? What might some of those struggles be? Where do you find it at?

"It doesn't matter if they are not toxic to others, if they are not for you, you may walk away. (Some make us run away)."

I wish this was true, it is not always that way look at the kids that go to public schools some times many of them would just love to run away and so would their parents, but what is law is law and so that is not always possible as it is not always possible in other situations, so guess that we have to try to learn to deal with as many kinds of people in life as we can, LOL Sorry to have to tell you. And I am happy that you all are here.

Answer 1

Definitely NOT in other people. If you look for others to mirror your self, you'll try to become like them, conforming to their expectations and never finding your true self.

You need to think about what's important to YOU. What matters to YOU. What your strengths and weaknesses are. What you enjoy, what interests you. Your quirks, your specialness. You find your "self" by becoming more self-aware, then valuing what you discover and slowly work on being your own best friend, the best self you can be...a lifelong journey.

Answer 2

If you keep your heart on great vibrations for you, you will attract others that are positive also.
(You can learn that in the DVD, The Secret for $29 that I just bought and watched over & over). Oprah had the authors on her show - so I thought I'd try it.
I bought 2 more and gave them away to friends - and it changed the life of 1 - amazing.

Struggles - faced are struggles faded.
If you see how much opportunity you have inside, to live and to change, then you become more of an asset to yourself. You are your own best friend.
Love is - Love is all around - when you start gratitude - you receive the love from the best person in the world (YOURSELF) -
and then you spread it around - random acts of kindness, a generous attitude, and then you stop associating with those who are "toxic" to you. It doesn't matter if they are not toxic to others, if they are not for you, you may walk away. (Some make us run away).

GOD bless us always. - FAITH!
MBA-Boston Univ.

Answer 3

In order to find yourself, you need to recognize what makes you happy, and sad. What do you enjoy doing? How do you feel about different things. There's a saying, " To thine own self, be true." Don't try to mirror other people; think for yourself. You don't need to be a carbon copy of someone else. Life's struggles, and choices help you to define yourself as an individual, and the choices you make will help you to understand who you are. You won't get to know the real you overnight, so be patient, and give yourself some time. Many people spend a lifetime trying to figure out who they are. Don't worry, you'll figure it out in time. Best of luck!

Answer 4

some never truly find themselves because they are too busy to take the time. it takes alot of self evaluation, figuring out what is really important in life, not worrying what others think, because once you do that, you are straying farther from yourself than you already are, and most importantly, keep an open heart. how you handle the little struggles ends up to be how you handle the big ones. people tend to make more out of the little things than need be. ive seen some who lose it over someone whos card doesnt work in the checkout lane. you kinda want to say, hey, chill out, sit back and smoke a fat one, its not that bad. what would you do if something really went wrong? have i found myself? hell no, but im working on it. i think self is the opperative word here. you find yourself within yourself. i was going to say, good luck, but luck has nothing to do with it.

Answer 5

This involves a rough go, most usually, a rigor not quite suited to those who have come to know life as no more that what has been presented by convention.

An operative word here is "struggles," not that this is absolutely inevitable but is usually the manner by which one comes to know, or "finds", oneself.

Quite frankly, the journey toward the Self-realization began eons ago for virtually all, over a period of thousands upon thousands of years during which one attains merit through the weft and warp of life and living. It does not occur at once, for one could not withstand such a shock that such a state would entail, which occurrence would defeat the purpose for which one incarnates in the first place.

We each grow at our own respective rate, yet there exists certain lines of force that underguide certain types and in accordance with certain spiritual necessities.

When one addresses matters of Self, he or she is stepping into the Spiritual worlds first hand. The methods by which this occurs is not limited to some one path or religion or spiritual doctrine or way of life, for any and all circumstances import to that end of coming to know oneself.

When one speaks in terms of Self, one is addressing many dimensions and inner bodies, each with its own consciousness and will. The objective in the highest aim is to master oneself ultimately.

And when one speaks in terms of finding oneself, this is usually speaking from the level of the ego, of the mind, not the true self.

For some the angle is steep and swift and his or her circumstances are well-appointed; problems tend to be a common visitor in such a person. Though simply because someone is undergoing difficulties does not necessarily mean he or she works under such a line of energy or force.

But in any case, he or she has chosen this. It is part of the Life Contract, say. It is not that which comes by folly or happenstance but in fact involves events placed to ensure the growth of that particular Soul -- and again, by his or her choosing and in agreement with the High Orders of the Spiritual Hierarchy long before coming into the respective incarnation in which that person now lives.

This a broad area, a deep area, and a good suggestion is to go within and ask of what this is and how to "find" one's Self. You will be guided in accordance with your unique make-up and what you will need to start such a journey. LIFE already knows just what you will mean and want and in alignment with your state of consciousness and what be the need.

We are not alone...

Answer 6

It depends on what your definition of self is.

To many the self is the ego. I see this as the confused sense of self, the part that is careful to act a certain way so it feels accepted and loved.

Can this idea of self truly be you, or are you something entirely different from this mirror image of the world around you.

Consensus reality tells us that this is all that we are but is this true?

Perhaps the true self sleeps until we start to step away from the idea that we need to conform to the wishes of external forces to be worthy.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 7

Finding oneself is really easy if you are willing to be honest, brutally honest, with yourself.
So often people go through life doing the things they have been programmed to do, instead of those things that offer them purpose, meaning.
There is within all of us a desire to do something, writing, painting, singing and so forth.
These are the things that allow us to put up with those things in life we can not change. Abiding by the Law and going to school for instance. It allows us to tolerate those people that we must deal with and yet we would rather not even be around them.
Life is short, much to short to go through it without purpose, meaning and fulfillment.

Answer 8

I find I'm very different that other people. That makes me happy. I am a very positive, happy person, and most people carry around all kinds of crap. The world don't care about how your jeans look or who said what, get over it and take one day at a time. If you loose the luggage your free to enjoy the sunshine.

Answer 9

The fist way to find yourself is to have a personal relationship with God, the One who created you. He knows you better than you would ever know yourself. In and through this relationship you will get to know yourself in various ways.

Firstly, you will get to know yourself in and by the way you react to the life, issues and struggles that you face everyday. You may not always like what you discover, but you will be granted an oppurtunity to improve on or abandon some bad qualities which may emerge from within.

Secondly, others do play a part. We can only be man because of our interaction with other people. We shape each other and we do influence each other. Through our interaction we learn to discern between what is good and bad and once again we can choose who we want to associate with.

Is'nt it strange that we even learn to know ourselves better each day? No man can say that he fully knows himself, for man is a fickle being and has a sinful nature. therefore we find that we often do things that we would never have believed we are capable of doing!

St. Paul summarized it nicely in his letter to the Romans, chapter 7. Read it and see for yourself what human nature is like.
But, thanks be to God, we have Him in Jesus and through Him we can become what He has ordained for us to be!
How blessed we are!!!!!

Answer 10

I believe in loving people and accepting them for who they are especially my sweetheart. I have a strong faith and I trust in God as I go through my life. I believe in having courage and always just doing the best you can even through difficult circumstances and any trial you may face in life. I pretty much know the kind of person that I am and I will strive to be as good a man as I can be.