I'm having a problem with my husband and iw as wondering if someone can give me some ideas of what could be going on with him.My husband for the past week or so has changed alot.He don't hardly talk to me,touch me,kiss me shoot he won't even cuddle with me anymore.I'm not gonna try to sound nasty right now but last night I was trying to get some and he pushed me away and he never does that.I love my husband more then life it's self and it's hurting me to have him treat me this way.I know he's stressed out do to us struggling and not having enough money to pay our bills or to get our kids the things they need but is that any reason to push me away? I don't feel that he's cheating on me but there's something going on and I need some ideas oof what to do to bring him close to me and to make him the man I knjow and love.He's always saying I have an attitude and all at the same time it's him that has it...Please help me!!!!!!
2007-03-12 03:16:29 · 19 answers · asked by amber_shavalier@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is sure to be stressed due to the financial situation you are in. he could be feeling like a failure and depressed enough to temporarily lose interest.
2007-03-12 03:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. His actions may not mean he is cheating, just over loaded with stress. Struggling with the financial situation is a sure mood killer. Are you working, if not suggest that you get a part time job to help ease his stress. Cut back on somethings. When my husband and I were in that situation, we shut off the intranet, phone, didn't eat out and only purchased what we needed to live rather than the things that were a waste of money. There's a lot you can do to help ease his stress, but it takes sacrifices from everyone
2007-03-12 03:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is truly stressed. Severe anxiety can lead to health problems and depression. See if there is a community outreach program that can help you with your money problems or a credit counseling agency that can help consolidate your bills. If he knows there is light at the end of the tunnel he may start to feel better and be more receptive toy you.
Don't listen to all these people saying he's cheating, if he were cheating he wouldn't want it to be obvious!
2007-03-12 03:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of notes:
Stress can contribute to ED- erectile dysfunction. Althought this condition happens to almost every man, some are not comfortable with revealing it.
Also, As per Dr. Phil's column recently, sometimes talking makes things worse for men. Not for women, but for men.
And, you need to figure out what attitudes are going around.
Take that to a counselor.
Many times, a sexual problem is a sign of emotional ones, and vice cersa.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 03:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does not want to talk. How have you been communicating with him in the past? I know it's only been a week, but most stresses resolve themselves in a few weeks, in the meantime, you have to find a way to get him talking, such as do somtheing fun with him or with the kids that will make him come out of this shell. Or perhaps is it something you said or did? do a self -realization too on your past conservations.
2007-03-12 03:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by reene2g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good lord woman it is you . Your probably on his as,s about money problems maybe not in a mean way but you are pushing him a little harder .You lost your good attitude worrying about money.Well guess what 90% of us are having money problems.If you are middle class your just beginning your journey to the low class the middle is being fazed out or haven you noticed.Well we never do until where there welcome to the ghetto.
Don't mention bills or what the kids need just try being happy with yourself and family.They are the real happiness not your bill or the kids with new toys. Another words don't worry be happy
2007-03-12 03:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It absolutely sounds like stress. Financial burdens will do any relationship in if you allow it. Sit down with him and make a strict budget. See where you can save so you have more for necessities. Once you see that everything can be paid for if you create a budget and stick to it, then the stress of financial burden will ease up. Less stress will give him less worry and improve his attitude....and yours! Good luck!
2007-03-12 03:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your husband need to sit down and talk with each other; communication is vital in any relationship! Let him know that you understand why he's so stressed, and how it's affecting your relationship with him. You might want to consider marriage counseling and financial counseling; you can get both free. Check with your local Social Services office, or if you attend church, talk with your minister. Best of luck!
2007-03-12 03:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What youare describing is very sad. Yes he does have something eating at him. If you rule out another woman, then perhaps the problem is money or the lack of. Are you working ajob andhelping with the income? Secondly, have you done something to change your appearance that is disgusting him? Communication is the only way to get to the bottom of this. I feel for you.
2007-03-12 03:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and talk. Pick a time when he is in a decent mood and just talk to him, let him know your concerns and those concerns is affecting the way you treat him too. Only when you find out what is causing your husbands distress can you guys work to fix it.
2007-03-12 03:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ken R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a long talk with him. Hopefully he isn't cheating and is just stressed out. Good luck!
2007-03-12 03:20:08 · answer #11 · answered by Kris10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋