My boyfriend and I have been together for a longtime. I love him and he loves me. But we dont agree on anything. He hates my family and my friends. We argue all the time. We spend more time fighting
2007-03-12 03:00:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The thing is there, as i've been there seems to me he wants you to have no relationship with your family or friend's as maybe they'll see just the type of guy he is. When you say white, he say's black and really it get's very frustrating as you become very distant and soon enough you don't even want to talk or share your thoughts as it's only going to be another argument, i've realized when someone love's you, he accept's part of you meaning your friends especially your family, do you want a life of fighting all the time because in the end if it doesn't change you'll just end up losing respect for eachother, i mean people disagree all the time but constant tell's me some one want's to control you and your thought's and turn you away from the people i'm sure who love you and care a lot, so talk about it, but b careful that you just don't stay with him because love is there, i mean loving someone is much more than physical, emotionally is he good for you?? Take Care and Best Wishes 2 you and hopefully everything work's out for you in the right way. XXX
2007-03-12 03:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 21:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you together? You seriously need to take a break from one another, then step back and assess the relationship. If you really do fight all of the time and you don't agree on anything, then what are you basing your "love" on? ALL successful relationships (marriage, dating, or even friendships) involve love, trust, compromise, and sacrifice. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life spending more time fighting than anything else? Where is the future in that?
You can try counseling, if you truly want to try to make this relationship work. Here's something to think about for the long run: there are ultimately TWO types of pain: The pain of changing / moving on (which is temporary), or the pain of staying the same (which is permanent). Which will YOU choose?
2007-03-12 03:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. One I should be asking.
My bf tells me we are going to take it slow.....(see my questions).
We love each other, but can not get a long.
Right now we are apart, we don't live together, we don't see each other that much. But we talk everyday.
It is hard, but I have found I have to fix myself. Also, we have issues between us wayyyy back , and that hurt which makes me an angry a$$ and him act the way he does.
Maybe you two should sit down and talk>? Or write - if you cant stop yelling. This is what me and my bf used to do. Id write a sentence and he would write one.
No talking.
I told him I didnt appreciate him bad mouthing my family, I never have did that to him? I think he may be a little jealous or something else stems that anger toward them........ talk to him. I know thats easy to say and hard to do, but what are you trying to save if you dont?
2007-03-12 03:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't " fix" a bad relationship, you move on. Although you may have a deep sexual attraction, this is not enough to support a relationship for very long. Do yourself a favor and stay friends but look elsewhere for a long term relationship.
2007-03-12 03:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by ishootpix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, im sorry.. but if you guys cant work it out.. then i think the answer, as you know is to break up. if things are that bad.. then theres no fixing it unless you two honestly belive you can fix it. or if you guys mean the world to each other and honestly want it to work out, then you'll do anything to fix it.
2007-03-12 14:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by needs_lost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb u need some time on ur own i mean no friends and family just u 2 , romantic dinner , small trip it surely helps
2007-03-12 03:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't fix it you leave a bad relationship its better to find out than if you married a person like that and divorce
2007-03-15 15:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try couseling and if that doesn't work then you need to move on.
Good Luck.
2007-03-12 03:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋