There was this girl I always liked and admired in high school which was 6 years ago from the first time I saw her. Five months ago I expressed my love for her and was glad when she accepted it. I have been dating this girl for 5 months and she has everythingthat I and every guy can want very pretty, nice body, nice personality, and smart. To some extent, she is pressuring me a little to sleep with her. Like last 2 months we have did some sexual stuff like strip naked for each other but we have not had sex. In my head I want to sleep with her because I feel comfortable with her and she is pretty but in my heart I just think that im rushing too much because she is the first girl that really liked me and I feel like internal pressure from myself because in high school I was teased because i was fat and nerdy but is not like that any more after 3 years graduating from high school. What should I do?
2007-03-12 02:59:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sex is nothing to feel guilty about. You are not "losing" anything if you are following your heart and your body. We are meant to enjoy sex, but so many people carry around hang-ups about it.
If you think you are "rushing", then don't do it.
When you are ready, you won't have any question in your mind, I believe. Be prepared and make sure you use protection. Don't think that because you have sex with someone, you have to marry them. You will likely have many girlfriends ahead of you. Just be respectful to her, and be true to yourself. If this is not the girl, she will be coming along soon I'm sure. Relax about it a little and it will be fine.
Good luck, it sounds to me like any girl would be lucky to be with you. (And we are all messed up from high school in one way or another! That will wear off soon!)
2007-03-12 03:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by justagirl33552 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time to have sex is when it's YOUR choice, not when somebody else is pressuring you. You should tell this girl that although you may like her, you don't want to be pressured into anything.
You're wise to be hesitant about having sex with her. Be careful. She might be pretty and all of that, but she's got some other motives that might not be in your best interest. Whatever you do, DO NOT have unprotected sex with her.
2007-03-12 10:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loss of virginity
The act of losing one's virginity, that is, of a first sexual experience, is commonly considered within Western culture to be an important life event and a rite of passage. It is highlighted by many mainstream Western movies (particularly films aimed at a teenaged audience). The loss of virginity can be viewed as a milestone to be proud of or as a failure to be ashamed of, depending on cultural perceptions. Historically, these perceptions were heavily influenced by perceived gender roles, such that for a male the association was more often with pride and for a female the association was more often with shame. (See Double standard.)
The partner during the loss of virginity is sometimes colloquially said to "take" the virginity of the virgin partner. In some places, this colloquialism is only used when the partner is not a virgin, but in other places, the virginity of the partner does not matter. The archaic term "deflower" is sometimes used in modern times to also describe the act of the virgin's partner, and the clinical term "defloration" is another way to describe the event.
One slang term used for virginity is "cherry" (often, this is the term to refer to the hymen, but can refer to virginity in males or females) and for a virgin, deflowering is to "pop their cherry," a reference to destruction of the hymen during first intercourse.
A curious term often seen in English translations of the works of the Marquis de Sade is "to depucelate." This word is not normally found in English dictionaries, as it is not an English word. It is apparently a literal translation of "dépuceler," a French verb derived from "pucelle" (n.f.), which means "virgin."
In some countries until the late 20th century, if a man did not marry a woman whose virginity he took, the woman was allowed to sue the man for money, in some languages named "wreath money".[1]
2007-03-12 10:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by emailfunnyfarm.blogspot.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always tell people follow there first thought about the situation because when you sit and think about it your mind starts to think to much into the situation and things start becoming uncomfortable when your around that person and i always say to myself i wish i had followed my first thought and if you really feel that way aboout let her know snd if she cares about you as much as you do about her she will understand how your feeling or you guys can come up with some kind of forplay agreement(lol)and if she cant understand your feelings she might not be the right girl for you.
2007-03-12 10:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by apriljunemarch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you are comfortable with. If you are not ready yet DO Not Do It!!!!!! You do not want to regret it. At the same time do not let high school affect you. Its done and over with. You found someone who loves you the way you are. Only do what you are ready to do.
2007-03-12 10:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by yako2b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.. if u are a guy.. then do it already! But if u are a girl then better to wait til u think this person is the right one for ya.. esp if u are really religious and all. ;)
2007-03-12 10:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ichigo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The right time is after you get married.
2007-03-12 10:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. Wait until you are ready to get married. If you do it and break up, you will regret it.
2007-03-12 10:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married first.
2007-03-12 10:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do it and dont hesitate. Put your manhood to use
2007-03-12 10:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan O 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋