Iam 22(Julia) and my boyfriend 31(Karl) and everything would be fine but .....iam falling in love with another guy and when i imagine my future housband its Karl....what should i do?
2007-03-12 02:56:25 · 11 answers · asked by Julia K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thanks guys....respect both of them but sometimes my feelings are stronger than me...
2007-03-12 03:13:51 · update #1
what bit of you is lesbian,gay, bisexual or transgendered? Give the girl a go!
2007-03-12 03:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by wrongjon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oooooo i had a problem like this when i were with a Past Girlfriend.. although it took me to Kiss another Girl Behind her back to realise that i couldn't stay in the relationship no longer.. Of course i am not suggesting you should do that as thats definatly the wrong way to approach it.. I think you should carry on as you are, but to try and forget and lose touch with this other person, that might be hard but thats what you can do for starters.. If you find that this is totally harder than you expected why don't you see if you can have a Chat with Karl, maybe talk about why you feel like this and what could be done to save the relationship if that's what you want! Or even chat with the other Guy.. tell him you want a bit of breathing space so you can sort yourself out and decide what you really want.. If this other Guy really likes you he will wait, but he will also understand if don't choose to go any further with him.. :)
2007-03-12 10:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by danny.edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should consider polyamory if you love both.
Most people, because of the way society views it, assume that you can only fall in love, romantically, with only one person at a time. This is something that isn't true for some people.
I'm one of those people. My last relationship was with my ex-bf and ex-gf. We all loved each other and were together for a long time.
Poly relationships are more difficult than mono relationships. A lot more communication is needed and honesty, brutal honesty, is an absolute must. That doesn't even cover the social issues you will face. Polyamorous folk are looked down on and discriminated against much more openly than gay/lesbian/bisexual and even more than the transgendered, though with less risk of violence. No companies have anti-discrimination policies about us and it will be harder for your friends and families to accept. Most poly folk stay in the closet with most of their friends and family. I have friends in a Quad (four people together) who are only out to other poly folks and a few family members. They all live together and have been for a while now. They have 10 kids (which is mind-boggling all by itself, IMO). They are only out to the kids that are 14 and older (mainly because those kids asked a lot of pointed questions).
2007-03-12 10:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear julia!
i really believe that love is an emotion not sth that we can control but still u don't have to leave the poor karl in the lurch.well! to find the answer to this question.close ur eyes and put urself in karl's shoes,how would u feel at then?
2007-03-12 10:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words.
poor karl.
what r u playing at?
ur not ready 2 marry karl, if ur lusting after another man.
2007-03-12 10:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is this 'other guy' if he is the same age or a bit older than you then go for this 'other guy' or if he is really older than you dont go for it it depends who you like better karl or 'other guy'
hope you find the perfect boyfriend
xXx
2007-03-12 10:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. if u cant be faithful and loyal to the current one u are with then dont do it at all, esp if can see him as ur future husband. U dont wanna risk losing a good thing. Either do it right or dont do it at all! Good luck!
2007-03-12 10:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ichigo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Julia,why is this question in the LGBT section?
2007-03-12 14:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can your feelings be stronger than you? They don't have a life separate from you. That's just a cop out.
2007-03-12 11:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel sorry for
karl but you got to tell him (^-^)
2007-03-12 10:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋