I am a 23 y/o gay man. i have been with my bf for a lil over a year, and we do not have sex much but when we do i feel so bad for having done it....
2007-03-12 02:53:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i guess it is not that i feel bad for haveing the sex.. but for wanting to have sex with him... he is not a very sexual person and i think i force him to do it when he does not realy want to.....
2007-03-12 06:29:08 · update #1
I'm sorry that you feel this way.
Is your boyfriend okay with the sex? Are you in a monogomous relationship with your boyfriend? What about the society around you - and your family and loved ones - do they support your sexual orientation? Are you both safe from STDs?
If you answered "yes" to all of those questions - then I don't know why you would be feeling badly. If you answered "no" to any of them - that might explain your feeling ashamed.
Sometimes it's hard to be gay in this society without some therapy. Sex should be something you're enjoying! There shouldn't be any guilt or feeling ashamed involved.
This is all just my opinion - and nothing more.
Bless you!
2007-03-12 03:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not to the point where you are 100% comfortable with your sexuality. I feel the same way sometimes when I have sex with my guy. Its natural I guess. Just try to feel comfortable with it. Maybe you were brought up with traditional values that are at the back of your head making you feel that you did something wrong. Just feel whats in your heart and not what people say or think in the whole.
2007-03-12 02:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Some Random Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES its normal for you, everybodys different, but its the input of society in general that makes you ashamed of youself.
I felt guilty thinking about my feelings too but I was drawn to it. I felt guilty about doing things with other boys.
I even felt guilty about masterbation.
A lot of boys/guys feel ashamed or have felt ashamed about gay matters.
Try to get your head round it. Its the historical input or brainwashing process that is anti-gay that has left its mark on you and many other gay people.
Good luck & take care David :)xxx
2007-03-12 10:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I missing something? This is your bf for over a year. what are you feeling bad about??? Are u being completely honest with him and most of all yourself?
2007-03-12 04:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by MS.MOCHA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. i thought all guys wanted sex, all the time. i know that even when i didn't feel like it, i would do it anyway, just to "please" my man. and it's not that i really didn't want it--i would be tired or frustrated, not from him, but from the daily grind. you shouldn't feel bad. you have needs and wants, too, and it's too bad your boyfriend doesn't respond to those. i hope things get better for both of you.
2007-03-12 13:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd in no way make my female buddy, the female i admire and care approximately, do issues that could make her ashamed, and that i'd in no way blackmail her into doing them by using asserting i'd purchase her issues... your boyfriend would not care or love you. you ought to smarten up and understand this. he's egocentric and cares purely for himself, you ought to provide up letting him use you and play you for a fool and flow on.
2016-12-18 11:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bad at all. Since you do it so infrequently, you feel guilty about what it may do to the relationship
2007-03-12 02:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u SHOULD NOT feel ashamed...Maybe u and ur boyfriend have not reached the zone where u too are really comfortable talk to him about this...
2007-03-12 04:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your relationship is only a year old, you should be doing it like rabbits.
2007-03-12 10:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by lan f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myb ur not really gay sleep witha woman an she how it really feels to be with one
2007-03-12 03:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Chocolit B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋