Women only please.?

Question

I'm wondering if any women on here have very controlling husbands? How do they treat you and what are you restrictions. Do you feel that it is ok for men to be this way. You know like they are king of the castle and women are put on earth to do their bidding.Thanks for answers in advance.

I should have added that my husband is not physically abusive, just very controlling. Has to have everything his way. Acts like he should make all the decisions.

Answer 1

It is not ok for any man to attempt and control a woman. Unless that is what you stated in your marriage vows. Unfortunately a lot of women get stuck in these type situations. I was in one for nearly 4 years. I wasn't allowed to have men friends, then it got to the point where no women friends. Then he started screening my calls, my computer, searching my car. I finally got out. And moved away. Thankfully I wasn't married. I would recommend you spending some time away for a while. Maybe he will realize he can't treat you this way. If he still acts this way even after a time away from one another you might want to consider divorce. It depends on how serious your situation is. But please if it's been dangerous and violent don't wait until the last minute like some poor women do. When you wait until it's too late, sometime there won't be any help available. It just ends up being another case of domestic voilence that went too far

Now I am married and my husband doesn't control me. I have a submissive nature. Where I am very easy going. But if I had to would stand up for myself. He never raises his voice, we do not fight. We do everything together, go everywhere together. He is my other half. We cook together, clean house together, cuddle, watch tv, do crafts, wash the car, go fishing. Everything imaginable we go through it all together. As a team, and that is how it should be. A team effort

Answer 2

No I do not feel like they should treat you that way! I don't know how old you are, but the best thing is if you're young, don't even let it get started. Cause if you do, you'll regret it for several years, and in the end you'll neither one be happy. That's kinda what I'm going through right now and I left, because he just kept getting worse. Another piece of advice, if you don't work, get a job, and if he says you can't do it anyway, that way you have your own money for the things that you want, and you don't have to DEPEND on him for everything. Once he has you to where he thinks you can't survive without him, you will be in Misery for the rest of your life! Lastly, if you want to go somewhere, don't ask, Discuss, don't let that asking thing get started at all. Spend time with him when he's home, but explain to him that you need time alone as well, he will buck you at first, but once he gets used to the idea, it'll be ok You will both be happier in the end.

Answer 3

One of the signs of an abusive relationship is when there is a controlling person who dictates every move you make. You used the word "restrictions" and that scares me. How DOES he treat you...what are YOUR restrictions he's placed on you?

Please...be strong and nip this in the bud. You have to stand up and be the voice of reason if this is a fairly new relationship. If he thinks that he is the head of the family, that's great. But if he thinks marriage is about control and not love, he's got some serious problems. He obviously doesn't understand that making the wife happy means she'll do anything for him automatically!

Answer 4

It is absolutely unacceptable for a man to control a woman.

In my relationship with my husband, my husband is the head of the household. However, I manage the household. I cook and clean, take care of children while he works, go to the store, etc. If I need help, I ask and he helps. If I dont go to the store while he is at work, then we go together when he gets home. My husband is my best friend in the whole world and we do everything together. It may be hard to distinguish where 1 of us starts and the other ends. We are that close. And I do tell him when I have to go places, I do call him when I get back, and I tell him where I am going. That is a courtesy to him, and has nothing to do with control. What if he needed me and I wasnt home? There is ALWAYS something going on as my husband is in the army and you just never know what is going to happen. It is important for me to be able to run the household because when he is gone (deployments, schools, field exercises), I have to be the one that takes care of everything.

Control is never acceptable. Get rid of him.

Answer 5

I'm the boss in my marriage.
It's all about respect( On both sides). One mate always take charge but they can not abuse the power. the other mate STILL should have a say. The one with the power must also realize if the decision is hurting the other and must know to stop. We all have different relationship.. Some people love being told how to live. that is a fact. The sad part is they dont know how to express when they are hurt. The one in power JOB is to look for that and get them out of their shell.


READ AGAIN!!!!
WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIPS
As long as BOTH are Happy and Both are understanding in the relationship.....do you!!
Some people are not a take charge, while others are not subservient.
BOSS DONT EQUAL TYRANT OR ABUSIVE
I step up faster than my "lazy" but i love him husband.

Answer 6

My dad is really controlling, and it kills me to have to watch my mom just go along with it.

She always has to call to let him know where she is and when she'll be home.

She can't contradict him, even when he's clearly wrong.

It's pathetic really.

It's not okay in any way for a man to treat a woman that way. It's not okay for anyone to treat someone else so poorly. It's not healthy, and it's not fair.

Everyone is equal. Women have the same rights as men, and don't let him tell you otherwise.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 7

I have the absolute opposite problem. Last night I told my husband to pick himself up by his balls so he would even remember that he IS the man in our house. :( So depressing having to make EVERY decision.
It is teamwork, it requires both husband and wife. It's complicated how I feel on the subject, but basically the husband is the head of the home, but if he honors, loves and RESPECTS her the way he is supposed to then her opinions matter VERY much as well. She will be asked and talked to and not just ordered about.

Answer 8

Weren't there any signs of the control issues before the marriage? If there were, why didn't you address them before hand? If there weren't, when they first started to appear, you should have asserted yourself then. Men are only controlling because they are allowed to be. Marriage is not 50/50, marriage is 100/100. Each spouse giving 100% of themselves to the relationship. If you are being controlled, you aren't in a marriage, you are in a dictatorship. You will have to find yourself, and stand up for yourself now before you won't be able to later.

Answer 9

I had a controlling boyfriend for 10yrs until I got smart enough to leave.I payed all the bills.I worked he didn't.what ever money was left from my check he would take it.he would take my car stay out all night with him woman.If I left the house I got beat down.I was only allowed to go to the grocery store with him.I was not allowed to talk on the phone or be around family,because he knew if someone found out he would end up dead.I had two kids by him.I always had something on me broke.When he pushed me down the basement stairs and I was pregnat with child # 3 that was it for me.Woman are to be treated like a queen.We are too good to be treated like slaves.If I go down the street and see a man and woman fighting.I call the police.

Answer 10

No. My husband has told me that he respects me too much to do such a thing. He knows that if I'm not happy all hell will break loose. It's not okay for men to treat women like dogs. Assert yourself and demand respect or he will forever treat you this way