I've broken up with a guy that I love to bits.It was not a matter of my choice.It was his mom. I guess he was hurt too but he is showing indifference. His indifference is killing me. I'm overcome by guilt and I can sleep at night. I have nightmares and it hurts me when I see him or think about him.
The thing is I'm falling into depression. But there's something new about this 'depression'. I've always cut myself but this time I'm reduced to forcing myself to vomit. Sometimes I just don't need to force myself.
Everytime I see him talking to a girl,( he is doing this even though we only broke up for like four days and it's blatant)I will feel an sense of anxiety creeping upon me. I just can't breathe and I feel like puking.I always do and I always hide in the toilet.
I feel so guilty.I just don't know what to do. And I'm now constantly suffering from gastric attacks. I know it's stupid and juvenile. But I just can't help it.
So why am I puking?How do I just let him go?
2007-03-12 02:40:17 · 4 answers · asked by Rynn 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It seems to me, as you have stated, that since your ex is with other girls three or four days after you two had broken up that maybe his love for you wasn't as strong as yours was for him. My advice is to show your strength. While it may hurt alot on the inside, you have to be strong on the outside. I say that if he is letting his mother make the relationship decisions for him, then he's not much of a guy as it was to begin with. You really shouldn't hurt yourself. You have to think about the future, when a new boyfriend sees those marks he is going to ask why you have them, and he is not going to want to hear that you were depressed over an ex, it may scare him away. So, while you may still love him, go out and get a couple rebound guys, and if he's dumb enough not to come for you then find someone who is willing to stand up for you to ANYONE!! If you ever need someone to talk to let me know, my email is open.
2007-03-12 03:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sire_D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have given him too much power over you. You need to regain your strength and take it back. Love is not an easy thing by any means, and the loss of love can be tough. Find something to do that interests you. Spend more time with family and friends.
And the vomiting, you need to see a professional immediately before it turns in to a problem that cannot easily be cured.
2007-03-12 10:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coping can be hard but the way you are going about it is wrong. Love is a very dangerous game and we all play it, but we cannot allow it to destroy our lives. You need to begin the healing process. It may take time but you wont feel like this forever. Hurting yourself isn't proving anything! You will feel better soon, just give it time and avoid seeing him if at all possible.
2007-03-12 10:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dagnome 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to a professional about this? Being depressed is one thing, but purposefully injuring yourself in private is a very bad sign of your mental state. You might need some medication.
2007-03-12 09:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋