What do you do to keep a good friendship when your best friend makes rude comment about others?

Answer 1

I had the same situation years ago and I ditched the friend. WHY? Because friends describe who we are and if they cannot reflect what we stand for then they not what you need. Respecting people goes a long way and I now have a best friend who respects people.

Answer 2

This is what I do: I usually call my friend on it by laughing and saying something like, "Dang, are you having a bad day or something? That was a really snarky comment there." or "Do you ever wonder if people talk about you like that?" and then move on.

You can't control how your friend acts but you can call the person on their words when they are in your space. Eventually they will get the hint and stop doing it around you.

Answer 3

Well, I think that if it is a good friendship that you should be able to speak your mind to this person.
Let them know how it makes you feel when they keep making these rude comments.
See what they have to say about it and then make up your mind if you really want to be friends with this person or not.

be cool...

Answer 4

Tell her how it makes you feel. Be assured that if she is making rude commits about others to you, she is making rude comments about you to others. If she continues, and you know in your heart it is unkind and wrong, find another best friend. Good luck.

Answer 5

My experience has taught me that if they make rude comments about others to you, they'll make rude comments about you to others. It's difficult because they may be a good friend.

Answer 6

Defend others is the most important thing. But if she can make a comment like that, surely she can handle you defending others. Don't go too far as too make a fight, tho. Explain how you feel - your friend should understand.

Answer 7

if the best friend thing goes both ways ..then you should be able to talk about it cause best friends should trust and respect each others opnion.
I'd go gental with it though so you don't offend to deeply.
If it continues you might begin making off handed remarks
at off handed times.....as to how it is ashame
that people who have no respect for themselves try to
bolster their own character, in the eyes of others, by degrading other people

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Answer 8

You are going to have to bring it to your friend's attention (not in an embarrassing way) and you may have to say something a few times before the friend actually gets it that you do not condone them speaking that way around you and before you know it (if that person values your relationship) you will have helped them correct thier ways.

Answer 9

you know the saying that says birds of the same furthers fly together?, if you dont like what your friend is doing i think it is best to tell the friend to stop because it is not a nice thing to do. he?she may not know that you dont like it if you dont say. it is also best to be alone and be comfortable than to be with someone and be uncormfortable. straight talk is the answer to your problem. tell him/her frankly what you think and if it dont stop he/she may find friends who share the same interest. it is hard to have a friend with different values from yours.

Answer 10

You have to decide what it is that you like and respect about the person.

It sounds like your best friend isn't such a nice person....I'd rethink the friendship.