say your husband cheated one time on you then immediately confessed and begged 4 your forgiveness and you worked things out cause you had small babies and other than that things were great and you both went to God and counseling and stayed together stronger than ever.
say the other woman who is crazy in love with him refuses to realize it was nothin but sex because i had not been needing his needs. say she went berserk cause he changed his cellphone number we moved and he changed jobs. say she knows you and your kids and admits to your face that he was such a good husband and father she developed feelings for him and stole him from you when he was drunk and weak. Say he totally hates her and himself for what hes done. She even tries to say shes pregnant to break your family up. but you refuse to let her.
who would you say got played?
im confused on that word usage. im guessing she was or we both were? but just me i dont think so?
what do you think?
2007-03-12 02:18:25 · 10 answers · asked by maylene1852 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
trantzl
thanx for your comment but i dont believe that, you can love someone and still cheat. especially if drugs or alcohol is involved, and just being faithful all your born days doesnt mean you love them. sex isnt the be all of love. and the fact that this was his first indescretion and that he confessed on his own without my even being suspicious plus cause i do feel im partially responsibe for this means dh deserves another chance. but he knows this is it or hes gone.
2007-03-12 02:30:07 · update #1
why would my children suffer, they have no clue anything is going on. hubby and i arent even fighting we have been brought closer together by this. and for the person who says im making excuses the girl told to my face that she waited till he was drunk to hit on him and that she was gonna steal him from me.
2007-03-12 02:49:10 · update #2
Maylene, you really need to get over it already. If you choose to forgive him and give him another chance, then do that. If not, then leave him. But you are never going to forgive him and move on if you dont stop asking question after question on here about it and obsessing over it. So either get over it and move on, or dont.
2007-03-12 11:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making excuses for your husband's infidelity. I've read and answered some of your other questions. Saying that he was drunk is an excuse. Saying you were not meeting his needs is an excuse. Your husband betrayed you and has brought total chaos and grief into your life. I don't think his is remorseful, I think he has made excuses that you are willing to buy into.
Frankly, I think he is remorseful that he was with that particular woman because it has all blown up in his face.
You are not healing and you can't as long as your life is upside down. Have you thought about separation? Even just for a while so you can distance yourself from this mess and think clearly?
You need to stop with the excuses and realize that your husband cheated because he wanted to. Not because he was drunk, not because you are not a good wife, but because he wanted to have sex with someone else.
I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear, but I think it is what you need to hear. I wish you and your children all the best.
2007-03-12 02:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both got played, but he said he was sorry, has done everything possible to prove his love for you, and wants nothing to do with her. If she continues to bother you, I would get a retraining order. This woman sounds crazy and you never know what she might do.
And you are right, people do stupid things when they are drunk or on drugs. If it was ONE time, and he has gone through so much to keep you, I would just keep the crazy biatch away.
2007-03-12 02:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered a similar question from you the other day about the 40 year old ugly ho. You need to let this go. it is obvious that your husband made some mistakes, but it is equally ovious that protecting YOU from the truth was his top priority. He obviously loves you. Bond with him and when this woman causes more problems, take her to court. You all have moved, changed jobs, phone numbers, etc. Any further involvement by her is clearly a case of harrassment.
You need to allow your husband to love you. He does, you know.
2007-03-12 02:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ultimately the children in this situation are the ones who will suffer the most because they obviously have immature and emotionally unreliable parents.
2007-03-12 02:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by conservamommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the other woman got played. Your husband was the "player". He played both of you.
I'm just answering the question you asked.
2007-03-12 02:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just like a 3-some you all got played
2007-03-12 02:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they both got played.... but you have to realize, if he really loved you he wouldn't have cheated n the first place.
2007-03-12 02:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think she played herself, and you should just move on with your life......But never forget. Forgive, yes, but do not forget, lest it happen again. I admire you for your forgiveness.
2007-03-12 02:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you all got played. He got played by her. You got played by them both. And she got played by him.
What a web we weave when first we practice to deceive.
2007-03-12 02:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋