31 wks preg am i being daft, is it hormones?

Question

Hi

ok im 31 weeks preg and still working, but i am so big and so tired, about twice a weeknow, at abuot this time i get so tired and have a little cry to myself. i so want to give up work and start my maternity but am worried i wont manage financially. am not sure what to do.

Answer 1

i think you need a rest love now before you get any more physically drained,, you have 9 week left b4 the birth you should be having naps during the day cause your damn well gonna need the energy back,, i was the same although not teary i never had a rest whilst i was pregnant i was in hospital over nite after giving birth left the hospital and was in the supermarket doing ma shopping i had no 1 else it is only jan of this year that im getting two an half hours to ma self as ma lil lad at nursery i never stopped i was always on the go but 3 an half years later it is sure catching up with me now,, in a way i was really lucky cause my baby was really good sleeper through the night gave him his last feed and he was sleepin by midnight awake at bout 6am so i was getting my nite rests but honestly love if i was having a baby now i would get as much rest now as i possible could your hormones will be flying all over and nerves at the time left to give birth dont worry and RELAX

Answer 2

You must be getting very tired by now. I don't blame you for having a little cry. I am 33 weeks and regularly have a cry for no real reason. Little things upset me some days.

31 weeks is quite early to be starting leave, so sounds like you are doing the right thing by working a little longer. But look at stopping in the next 4 or 5 weeks.

Answer 3

Your hormones may be playing a little part in it, but honestly you probably are very tired. Everything works a little harder when you are this far along and you are carrying a fair bit of extra weight that your body is not used to. The baby grows a lot in the last several weeks as well and uses up a lot of your vitamins and strength.
The stress of worrying about money likely isn't helping you any.
You need to rest as much as you can. If you are working on your feet you need to find a place to sit frequently.
Its nice to save your maternity leave for the time you need at home with the baby if you can do it. Sometimes it isn't possible.
Maybe your iron stores are low as well.
Don't let yourself get too depressed. Don't be afraid to ask family and friends for help if you need it. Don't spend your off time doing load after load of laundry and heavy housework. Let it go for now as much as you can.
You've only got 9 weeks to go. Hang in as long as you can; and when you can't do anymore take your leave. Remember you are in control.

Answer 4

i think you should stop working if you can,having an healhy baby is more important than having all the money in the world.
i am not saying u dont need the money,but it is better to rest more at this stage,i will suggest u get ur partner to support your baby finantially too,also you could cut ur coat according to ur size,babyies dont really need much at their early age,buy the most basic and neccesary things,i ended up buying a lot of things i never used when i was pregnant,as the baby grows older and u get back to work ,u can then compensate .
i want u to blieve that if you stop work ,u will definitely make it,because u re a survivor.human beings have a way of coping with every situation,it has been made that way by God.
If you work too hard and this has an effect on ur baby' health ,i know u re not going to forgive urself ,so take the wise way out.good luck.

Answer 5

Take some holiday just to have some time to think, i felt the same way except i had an awful boss at the time and she was making my life far worse but i knew that i wanted to spend more time with my baby than i did leave work early so i carried on. i worked right up to 38 weeks and because my son with 2 weeks late i ended up having 4 weeks to myself. I got terribly bored and ended up decorating our whole home lol. You do what feels right for you, if you think you'll possibly take a year off work or maybe not even return then finish soon for your own sanity. Its not going to make that much difference financially with regards to a few weeks difference. Enjoy this pregnancy, it doesn't last forever xxx

Answer 6

Go to your doctor and get a sick note. My friend was just like you and the doctor put her on the sick, she was on the sick for about 6 wks then had her baby and started her maternity leave. You need to have some time to rest because you wont be getting a lot once the baby is born. Good luck with everything

Answer 7

First of all, I'm really sorry that you're struggling with your pregnancy.

If you're in the UK, you start your maternity leave at any point up to 11 weeks before you're due, so you could go now, but of course your maternity pay entitlement will start and finish earlier as well.

Do you have any annual leave left? You're entitled to take that now and you could try and use up any that you have left for this leave year. You would be paid full pay for the time you're on leave and some work places allow you to go from annual leave straight onto maternity leave. It could give you a couple of extra weeks off before your maternity leave starts.

Have you thought about perhaps reducing your hours or going part time whilst you're feeling so uncomfortable? I'm not sure what your boss is like, but they might be willing to let you work from home or reduce your hours for a couple of weeks. This would be particularly helpful if you're commuting to work and your current hours mean that you have to stand on trains etc.

You don't state what kind of work you are doing, but if it is physcial or involves standing for long periods, you are entitled by law to have a work place risk assessment and be offered more suitable working arrangements.

Finally, and one that clearly I won't advocate unless it's genuine, but you could, of course, always have a couple of days off sick. As long as sick leave finishes within 4 weeks of the agreed start of your maternity leave, it isn't counted as part of your maternity leave. If you are feeling ill and tired, it might be worth discussing with your doctor as to whether a couple of days off might help you get back on top of things again.

Good luck with whatever you decide. You need to look after yourself because you'll need all your energy to look after your little one!

Answer 8

you have to listen to your body you and your baby are more important then work and when it comes to money you will always get by don't worry about that.
I'm 30 weeks pregnant and i just started my leave as i was experiencing the same problems in the evenings after work i could barely move, my legs ached and i would have to go to bed a 7.
now I'm off i don't get any of that and feel a lot more energy that shows it was work related leave now you won't regret it .
good luck i hope this helps you.

Answer 9

hi i think you and your babys health is more important than money i know thats easy to say and you cant help but worry but you must be exhausted i am almost 29 weeks pregnant i am a nail technician and i also have a four year old daughter i have now give up work allready it was just too much and same as you i was worried about money but i found once i had got a routine sorted i learnt to mannage with the drop in inncome i cant have as many luxuries addmitedly but i would say it is well worth the saccrifice just to know my baby is healthy and me too . good luck and take care hope everything works out for you .

Answer 10

ask about going part time, or even reduce your hours by just 1 or 2 a day. that way everyday is a lie in.

Can you negotiate with your boss, that you do some part time now and start back part time, on a certain date after?