I mean i love him still and always will. we were best friends before we dated...and then we got engaged. i mean we were together for 4 years...Everyone says time. well what if time isnt going fast enough. what if it just made up depressed...the friends you had wont talk to you now because they dont want to get in the middle...or they are his friends more...(one reason we arent together his friends influenced him to be single). everything reminds you of the two of you together...and he says well lets just be friends...how do you deal with that one
2007-03-12 02:05:04 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there is no way to get over your heart being broken, just a way to learn how to live with it. talk to people who you love and trust and don't be friends with him if the reason is that it is the only way you can see him or be with him. he is clearly not lingering, so why must you. if your feelings for him is just plain freindship then yeah why not. but if you still love him and wanna be with him don't coz it will only hurt you more
2007-03-12 02:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 23:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't deal. Yes, people say time heals a broken heart well i still long for my first love. Yes, my broken heart healed but the want to have him in my life didn't. He wants you to be friends. Not a good idea. Lose him because if he wanted to be with you he will but to break up and say let's be friends is just a way to slide away from you without feeling guilty. Soon your so called friendship will disintegrate then what you have left? Think positive and try to indulge your time in some other routine and activities outside the norm. those friends that are acting funny were just your friends because of him. Go out and make new ones!
2007-03-12 02:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Snickerlicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to say it but it's time dear.A friend told me that when I was in your shoes that it takes half the time that you were together to heal.I didn't think that sounded right.For me it was 2 years and yes time moved slow but the good news is it will make you a stronger person.Keep your self busy get in touch with those friends you haven't seen in a while.Go go out to new spots not where the two of you went that's just keeps digging up memories and makes it harder on you. And if his Friend is behind you break up then let him be..when you love some thing and set it free and it returns its love and not then it was never meant to be. Beside wouldn't you want to be with someone that has his own mind and thoughts in check, you weren't dating his Friend. It get easier with time but you never forget.
2007-03-12 03:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no pain like that of a broken heart, and I empathize, because I've been there. However Amanda, the sad reality is that he has moved on, and it is time for you to do likewise. While listening to sad love songs and mulling over precious memories may seem natural, you are only hurting yourself. Everytime you find yourself grieving over the relationship, remind yourself of whatever it is he did to break your heart. A broken heart is usually the result of a willful act. So the pain that you harbor, needs to be released for your own sake. Open your heart, forgive yourself, and forgive him, then move on and soon you will find yourself in love again. True love is not like life where you only get one chance at it, you can love again and again.
2007-03-12 02:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by the15don86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard as it is the first step is to accept it, meet new friends, make a new life, and never try to fool yourself into believing he will come back and waiting on it to happen. when it first happens it is devastating and your kind of in shock. its like a process one goes through, going though one step at a time and arriving much later at acceptance that it is what it is, for whatever reason, and moving ahead. to stay in the past is emotionally draining, and does damage, time will make it easier, but the hurt may always be there in a way. it is best not to agree to be friends with him, best to just distance yourself from him, and find some new friends and a new life, and accept that this is life, and in our lives there is pain and hurt, and will be.
2007-03-12 02:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he folded to his friends pressure, then he wasn't strong enough. He wasn't as dedicated as you and he wanted to be good with his friends. He wasn't giving you the love you deserved. You were putting more in than getting out of it. Everyone says to just be friends, but rarely happens due to discomfort around that person. It is a tangled web, but as hard as it is, go your own way...
2007-03-12 02:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Soul Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going out . What do you do for fun ? Try Hard to go and have fun. Do things that keep him off your mind it take time not a week or two but time. I don't care what anyone say it okay to cry. When you cry it sometime make you feel better. It will get better.
2007-03-12 02:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by lil mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe seek the help of God...it definitely couldn't hurt to spend some time with him. 4 years is a VERY long time and you will always have a place for him in your heart but hopefully the memories of him will one day be replaced with memories of someone who is more mature and won't leave you simply because their "friends" told him to. I know time will help and you don't want to hear that but I pray for you!!! good luck and god bless
2007-03-12 02:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the truth and move on. If he cares about others more than you, then there's nothing much you can do. Let him go, set yourself free from this doesn't-care-enough guy and look for someone better. Believe me, there're tons of guys out there who is serious minded and don't depend their lives on other's opinions.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 02:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋