I work from 10:30PM-6:30AM my hubby works 8-4:30. I take our son to the babysitters in the morning when I get home from work. Then my hubby leaves(we only have one car at the moment)for work.
He wants me to work afternoons (2:30pm-10:30PM) so I can sleep with him at night and see our son in the morning. I would drop our son off at the sitters and then go to work. I would get home form work about 11:00pm. I want to spend more time with my hubby but If I go to afternoons I lose one hour time with our son. Our son is two. Should I stay on Midnights or go to afternoon shift?
2007-03-12 02:01:06 · 10 answers · asked by ~{Å?Å¦ÇºÑ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if u get to spend more time with him and ur son then i would do it
2007-03-12 02:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how switching from afternoons would limit time with your son. If you are dropping him off at day care in the morning anyway, you are not spending time with him while you are home from work. I do understand that you need to sleep. If you took the afternoon shift it would probably be better for everyone involved. You could keep your son at home until about 1:30 when it is time for you to go to work therefore spending more time with him. You can keep him during the day because your sleep schedule will actually be more normal going to bed around midnight, waking up at seven and still getting in good sleep time. You will always be able to please and satisfy your husband beause he will be able to sleep next to you at night. Be glad he wants you there. It seems like a good change to me. I say go for it.
2007-03-12 09:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lady A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you taking your baby to a sitter when you are getting home from work??? I thought the point of working opposite shifts was so one parent could be home with the child at all times? You should stay on midnight's, spend your days with your son and sleep when your husband gets home from work and can take over with your son. These formative years with your little boy go by so fast and before you know it he will be in school and you can adjust your schedule at that time as needed. Enjoy your little guy!
2007-03-12 09:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by conservamommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay on midnights, If you choose afternoons, you hubby will have his awake time alone and he might get used to be alone and do things on his own, or worse, spend his time with someone else.
I did too used to work midnight shift and had a tot. It worked for me because when I got up, I was rested andwas ableto spend time with my family, and by the time everyone was in bed, I went to work. When I changed to afternoons, my then husband had his spare time to himself and did allteh things that I didn;t him to do while I was not there watching, to incude eating bad food, playing video games, having his "buddies" over, and my son was not getting the interaction that he needed, the house was not taken car of, not to mention that he had the time to have an affair while I was at work.
Good luck
2007-03-12 09:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make an adjustment to see BOTH your husband and son. I would suggest working the afternoon schedule so u can spend time with both your hubby and son. You will still see your son on the other schedule too so would u rather see your son for the extra hour or still see your son minus 1hour and get to sleep with you hubby too?
2007-03-12 09:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to work, go to afternoons. You only lose one hour with your son, but you get to spend much more time with your husband. He's asking you to consider changing because he needs you! He misses you. The two of you are the foundation of the marriage, and your son will actually benefit from you and your husband being happy. Your husband is missing out much more than your son will if you change to afternoons.
2007-03-12 09:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same problem my hubby works from 11a til 9pm most of the time. I work from 7p til 7a. I have been doing this for 3 years. Now we are having problems I have a interview for a 11a til 11p position I hope I can change. You need to have time with your husband. It is hard to keep a marriage together when you work opposite shift. I think you should consider changing shifts.Men need their wives home with them as much as possible
2007-03-12 09:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your priority should be your child and husband go with the shift which gives you maximum time with both of them
2007-03-12 09:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by aallbeautifulady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather do afternoon shifts then midnights, but do what is best for you.
2007-03-12 09:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the switch. keeping in mind that your husband needs must be met first and foremost.
2007-03-12 09:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by miss-ee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋