So this the thing, you can see many question about this thing in Yahoo! Answer, if I could find the one that fit my problem I wouldn't ask new question.
I am confidence, the thing is I am very often not motivated to chat.
To be more specific:
If I talk to the one who have same hobby, it's easy and you know, I have the will, because the topic is interesting.
If talking of something else, more often I'm not motivated, so I could let two other people beside me just talking, without me commenting anything.
Very often: 2 or 3 people who hang-out with me just joking about anything, and I just not interested to follow their joke. How to solve this?
10 pts. for good or detailed answer
2007-03-12 01:52:31 · 7 answers · asked by Doo.ri 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i feel like that, too. i have a really hard time making friends. you are literally going to have to force yourself & pretend like you care about the joke, for example..& just add in a witty comment here & there & look interested. that's what i do. and, after a while it kinda comes naturally. is that what you really want, though? i mean, maybe you would be better off just being yourself & finding people who you do find interesting.
2007-03-12 02:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I'm much the same way. Secondly, I don't know why you would want a "solution."
Several years ago, I had a lady friend who was a good conversationist. She could carry on a conversation with anyone on any topic. But in observation, I noticed two rather unflattering things about her.
The first one being that she tended to verbalize any and every thought that entered her mind. The conversation always turned into what trivial matter was at that moment filtering through her brain.
The second unflattering thing I noticed was that she never had anything of importance to say. You've likely heard the expression, "he talks alot but never says anything." Well, that was her. Why would you want to become one of those types of people?
2007-03-12 02:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by AZ123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 21:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start the conversation yourself, that way you will be sure that it is a topic you are interested in. If the topic starts to go in another direction find a way to steer it back to what you want to talk about. Start out with a joke on the topic you wish to speak about.. Don't be shy, you probably have some very intersesting views that others would enjoy and benifit from hearing.
2007-03-12 02:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by unforgettable_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't always have to talk, if we are not interested in the topic of conversation we can always be quite and listen and acknowledge by nodding the head and maybe learn something on the subject. A good listener is more knowledgable than a good talker.
2007-03-12 02:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question how to be a conversationalist...read, read, and read some more...watch the news, check out the paper
The more knowledge you have the more you will be able to converse about a variety of topics
If you are just not interested in things people want to talk about, then it sounds like you are hanging out with the wrong people.
If it is just you and you are not interested in anything for too long...then you will have to make some changes in yourself or stop worrying about being a good conversationalist.
be cool...
2007-03-12 02:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you learn to listen for what the person wants to say:for what his actual meaning is, what is his mood, feeling.
Then responding is easy - you will sure have some reaction in the brain to vocalize. The most important thing in commucniacation is the exchange of ideas.
Good luck
2007-03-12 02:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋