Do i have to give another chance to my bf after they betrayed me with my friend?Help me please.?

Question

After 3 months that i left from my country friend send me message that she fall in love with my bf then after 4 days she told me that she and my bf are already lovers.then i ask my bf at first he denied but later he said thats true but according to him he is not serious with that girl becauce the girl is near with any boys or i can say she's a flirty type of girl and the girl knows from the beginning that i am the gf of that boy.Right after i know i end up my commitment with the boy and then next day their relationship also finished it was the boy who end up the relationship with that girl.The boy was eager to get me again and also the girl ask me forgiveness and another chance for the boy because she told me that the boy loves me not her although i convince myself to believe what she said i still can't because im far from them they're in asia and im here in middle east but i forgive them already for what they have done to me.By the way he's my first bf at age 23and we're on for 1 year

Answer 1

My honest opinion.... forget him!!
He's a cheater and cannot be trusted.

And your 'friend' that slept with him is obviously NOT a friend.
Forget her too!!

You don't need either of them.

Answer 2

You did the right thing by forgiving them but you do not have to take the boyfriend back or become friends again with the girl. You will not be able to trust either of them ever again. He slept with your friend not someone that you did not know this is pretty serious, people who are sincere and really care for you do not make mistakes like this and so close to home if you know what i mean. so forget about the bf and the only time you should have to deal with the friend is in passing meaning if you see her on the street say hello and keep it moving.

Answer 3

Find another boyfriend. Long distance relationships are the pits. If you plan to stay in the middle east for more than a year I would find someone else let your friend have him.
Betrayal is a pretty strong word if he was your husband maybe you could use that word but really its normal for stuff like that to happen in any country.

Answer 4

It is way cool that you have forgiven them...we are supposed to forgive people, but not forget the lessons we learned in the process.
I would not call anyone my friend who would have sexual relationships with my bf when I am not around...she is NOT your friend.
I would not trust a boyfriend if he would have sexual relationships with my best friend especially or anyone for that matter!!
If you don't have trust in a relationship you do not have anything.
I think your forgiving them was the thing to do, but I also think you should move on with your life and leave them behind as part of your past and a good life lesson.

be cool...

Answer 5

You deserve a guy who only wants you, ever. Why put yourself down like that, to go with a guy who can't be trusted? Also, your friend is not a true friend to go after your guy! She should find her own men, not steal her friend's men. They are causing you great grief and heartache when you are so far away you can't do anything about it. You should find a new man and new best girl friend and hold your head up high.

Answer 6

No. You need to move on. If it was so easy for him to go with your best friend, it will be even easier for him to be with a stranger or someone he just met. That makes him a risk for sexually transmitted diseases. He is also very immature if he cannot honor his committment to you.

Your friend also has no honor and you need to think of getting new friends.

I went through this many years ago. My best friend was with my then boyfriend. She confessed to me and I broke up with the boyfriend. I stayed friends with her but realized she was not a real friend..people who truly care about you would never do something to hurt you in that way for any reason. They might say they care or try to act like they have your best interests at heart. In reality, they are selfish and only care about themselves and their happiness/needs...it sounds like your friend is trying to get you back with your ex boyfriend to make HER feel less guilty about what she did. Which means, she is only serving her needs and not what is best for you.

Dump them both and move on. If your so called friends are like this, you don't need enemies. And seriously, you cannot be that desperate to take this kind of treatment from your friends. I would rather be alone than treated so dishonorably by people with no integrity.

ESPECIALLY at your age. When I saw you were 23, I was very surprised as this kind of thing sounds like a teen situation.

Answer 7

I think what u need to do is forgive and forget the both of them and move on with ur life. they are not worth a a second chance. one a cheater and betrayer will always be one.

Answer 8

I wld say that u ought to circulate on and forget approximately him.long distance love affair seldom works.He has given you too plenty soreness via having a courting alongside with your pal.they'd say that they are sorry for wat they have completed and that they broke up already yet who knows?!?!You cant be optimistic in the event that they are telling the reality or nonetheless mendacity coz u cant see them besides. i think of your appealing sufficient to discover yet another guy who will rock ur international.Loving a guy who's plenty from u and is able to mendacity wont be worth of ur time. there are numerous extra fishes in the sea.you nonetheless have a good number of time to compliment the final one. Goodluck!!!

Answer 9

You don't have to give another chance. If you can forgive and forget and you really care for him then I would give him a second chance. Your heart should tell you the right answer.

Answer 10

Give it some more time. If he really loves you, he'll wait. It's a sorta test.wait a couple of weeks, then see if yo ureally think he is worth getting back to.