would you believe other woman is pregnant?

Question

we are 99.9% positve shes not pregnant. came to my house march 6 and dropped off what she called her "proofs". these were documents from the same clinic that i go to. i was suspicious due to the fact that she works in the hospital so she probably has many friends that could have made or sold her those documents. i happened to have an appointment there myself so i had them checked out and were told they were real documents but with falsified information on them, even her name was misspelled. since my appt was to check for stds i talked to the std counselor about my situation and even tho legally you are not supposed to, she looked up the girl for me in the computer and it was a lie. she never took pregnant test there. also her first mistake she made that made me suspicous was telling me she paid $75 with no insurance and that my dh better start helping her with money. i to am uninsured and was told the test cost $150. $46 if you dont want to see a doctor. no way she paid $75

she did not start this till after he dumped her and broke off all contact. then she started harassing him calling him nonstop saying she loved him, they were meant to be together shes having his baby, shes gonna tell me all ect ect ect. he had to change numbers and jobs and we had to move. we have since started over with God and counseling to help us fix the marraige. well she has started stalking and harassing me now. she was a family friend so its not like she innocent she totally has been trying to steal him from me for a while and finally got him to fall when our marriage was in a bad state and hubby drunk. she says she wont stop till she sees my family broken up but i wont give her that satisfaction. yet the things she texts me or tell me is really hurtful, and i think yesterday my response to her text toally pissed her off cause things got worse. and all i told her was i would pray she found a nice single man that wuld take care of her and her 5 kids and jesus loves u!

to answer some of your question i and hubby are both kinda young 25. she is not she is almost 40 with 5 kids. hubby and i got almost 6 years together and came to me complaining of our sex life. i didnt listen. and he started drinking, going out and eventually had sex with this girl 4 times same month. he felt so bad about it tho he broke things off right after 4th time and came home to confess. woman admitted to me she has been in love with him for a long time cause she sees he was such a good husband and father. so when he was drunk she made her move. she admits this and shes been to my babies birthday parties! she then would not stop calling him, flirting with him, dropping by to see him and so they slep together 3 more times before he ended it. when asked why more than once dh says cause he was thinking down there not up here and was stupid. and as for those of u who said u sue the clinic thats what u say but if this happened to u im sure you'd wish they would tell u!

she got my phone number cause my sis in law called her on it without putting it on private first. this is when we really believed she was pregnant and wanted dh to do the right thing for the baby. im changing it today tho. i stopped answering her messages already so now she has resorted to voicemailing me threats, even got her teenage daughter threatening me! i saved these for police just in case. and i did not push the clinic to tell me anything. i merely showed them the documents which just by looking at could tell where false and it was not illegal to tell me that. but speaking to the std counselor on why i wanted the testing got me worked up and I was sobbing so badly the lady felt bad for me and knows my history with depression so she looked it up since anyone who gets a positive pregnancy test there goes through her for the blood panel.

Answer 1

Can you get a restraining order against her?

I highly recommend that you not text her anymore. You never know what kind of garbage she might pull.

Answer 2

The first thing you have to do is ignore these texts. By responding to them, she knows she has her claws into you and has some power over you.
So take your power back and totally oblitterate her from your life. Do not repsond.. this is what she wants, this is what keeps the talk going....
the contact.
She can falsify and scream pregnant until she is blue in the face...... she can't do anything to you or hubby right now.
She is "the boy who cried wolf" rememeber that story from childhood. She has probably done this before and to numerous people.
She is a predator and she is a stalker.
If she does not stop harassing you or hubby you must call the police and get them involved.
You will have to bring proof of some sort, so maybe you should keep the text messge, or phone calls recorded. You must prove that you have moved and made big changes in your life to get away from her.
You must give them the name of your counsellor so that they can vouch for your situation.
As far as hubby and you, if you have forgiven him and are reconcilling, then you must put all effort into finding peace in your lives again.
You can't do anything about anyone but yourself, you will not change what has happened but you can put this woman out of your lives.
You must cut all ties first, get your evidence together and make a trip to the police.
Get a restraining order put against her.
These kind of people do not take no for an answer.
If she is a family acquaintance, you need to let your family know what has transpired and ask for their assistance in not speaking or having any contact with this woman.
It is too late to cry over spilled milk.
This is time for action,
You can't fear her, you must deal with her, and dealing with her through the law will send her the message she needs to hear.
I wouldn't worry about the pregnancy, if it is true, she will have to prove it with a DNA test which she probably won't do.
You can't worry about that right now.
She is talking to try to cause trouble, you have to ignore it....
Give it time she will move onto another victim eventually.
Keep your forces together and work as a team.
Two against one always wins especially when the law is on your side.
You are giving her too much of your time. deal with her now and use the law to help you.....
By the way you should not have had someone put their job on the line for you.. this is a breach of confidence and is against all company policies.
This person who you pushed to find the information needs an apology from you and promise that you will never put them in that position again. You are wrong with that one totally.
Your energy is better spent somewhere else.....
Make the call and put your plan into action..

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry too much about it. But i would get a restraining order on her and have your hubby do the same. Then if she continues to harass you, she can go to jail, where her crazy butt belongs!! She sounds like she just wants to start trouble for you two, and trying to work thru infedelity is hard enough without her adding fuel to the fire. I admire you for sticking by your man...and i hope he has learned a lesson! He has a good woman, and if he didn't realize that before, should now! Good luck...and look into the restraining orders!! You never know how crazy some really are, especially a woman in love.

Answer 4

I hope I never go to that clinic because it is unethical and illegal for them to discuss this with you at all.

There’s no way for you to know at this point if she’s really pregnant or not. But even if she’s pregnant, hubby doesn’t have to pay a dime until after the baby is born and paternity is established--get a dna test!. Tell the woman to leave you alone or you’re going to file harassment charges and get a retraining order against her, and then follow through on it.

Answer 5

If she is pregnant with your husband's baby and you continue to stay with him, you will be tied to this crazy woman for the rest of your life. I understand you are skeptical because she is trying to steal your husband, but what if she is?

Can you forgive his affair if there is a child? Everytime you see this child you would be reminded of his affair. Could you love the child if he chose to be a part of the child's life?

I think it's very honourable that you are trying to save your marriage and have found it in your heart to forgive him.

You will have to wait to see if she is actually pregnant. If after a few months there is no change, she is obviously making it up. If she is actually pregnant she will have a valid reason to contact your husband.

However, she has no reason to contact you. If she's following you, call the police. If she won't stop calling you and texting you, press charges for harrasment.

Of course she was upset when you sent that last message. It shows that you refuse to stoop to her level. Also, I'm sure she doesn't want to be talked to about God for one of two reasons, 1.She doesn't believe or 2. She does believe and doesn't want to be reminded that God would not approve.

I hope your husband realizes what he has done and that you did nothing to wrong yet you are in the middle of all this. He has brought all of this onto himself, I hope he has learned how important it is to keep his pants on.

Answer 6

Good lord, total Jerry Springer , at your house, im curious.. how in the hell did she get ur cell phone number?? she just pulled it out of thin air? Why does she have ur numbers, and why havent u changed ur numbers to get away from "mrs. fatal attraction"?? is it that ur loving the drama? or just havent thought of it? I would simply tell her "fine, ur pregnant, whats new lol.. and tell her when she has the baby to let u know cause u and ur husband want a DNA test done to prove he's the father, until then, to leave u alone" and have everything changed, email accounts, phone numbers, cell phones, etc.. Let her know if she calls, or comes anywhere near ur husband or yourself u will not hesitate to put a restraining order on her, and get her also for harassment..

Id also start this convo with her, taping it, letting her know that its being recorded..for court purposes.. if she has one bit of sense in her head, she'll watch what she says at that point as not to incriminate herself..

She can only get into ur house, into your relationship, as far as "YOU" and YOUR HUSBAND let her in.. if u want her out of it.. u have to put a "brick wall" up to any attempts of her getting in, and by passing these text messages, answering phone calls ect, ur just letting her in, STOP!!!!!!!! change all , and wait and see if she really is or isnt pg, and if she is, have a paternity test done.. plain and simple.. but id be willing to bet if she isnt pregnant after a couple of months of not being able to have any contact with him, she'll pipe down, suddenly u'll hear a story of " I lost the baby" or something to cover the fact that she is claiming to be pg..

Answer 7

I'm not sure how old you and this other woman are but from the grammar, spelling and punctuation I am guessing young. What does it matter to you if someone else is pregnant? You call her the "other woman" but I am assuming since you are being tested for an STD that you aren't married or you are married to someone who cheats on you or you on him. You need to worry about finding ways to keep yourself from STD tests and not worry so much about someone else. Get away from this guy and make a good life for yourself. As far as everything about what this clinic "told" you, if it is true that they told you anything, and I was the "other woman" I would sue the hell out of this clinic for giving out my information (false or true)!

Answer 8

Very simple, if she is then in 9mths a baby will be born. I would not give her a minute of my thoughts. If she is pregnant you will know soon enough and will have to deal with it then. I certainly wish you and your family the best on this one. however, if she continues to harass the two of you I would consider obtaining a restraining order against her. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 9

she wants u to hurt just as she does right now, she will pull anything and try to hurt u, if she doesn't get him back. sounds as if she is obsessed with him, the women is lying, wants to create stories that she4 is pregnant, she thinks that will change his mind. she pursued him because she wanted what u had in life, she saw a good thing, and tempted him, and he crossed the line. best to get a protective order on her, and not respond to her at all, she will soon get the message and stop trying. she may try different things, if one thing doesn't work expect more from her. don't be surprised at anything she does. she is a sick puppy.

Answer 10

The only way i would believe it was if i went to the doctor with her or got your man to go, get him to pretend that he is really interested in this baby and that he wants to go along for an ultrasound to see his baby growing and to make sure it is ok. I'm sure this will be enough to get her to tell the truth or give your hubby enough time to freak her out and make sure that he insists on it.