I used to think I was being confindent, but in actuality I was being pretty disrespectful.
Can anyone relate?
2007-03-12 00:33:50 · 3 answers · asked by ssc23b9d 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It can take a kind of courage to break certain social conventions and be rude, etc. Hopefully, we can learn to be confident internally and not have to enact it in social situations for others to see. You are already on the introspective path and that, sometimes, demands more courage. Good luck..
2007-03-12 00:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big yes from me.
I tried to become a little more forthright with my husband, but because I wasn't paying attention to what I was saying and HOW I was saying it, I came across as aggresive and selfish.
My husband would often call me selfish and I couldn't understand that as I still wasn't getting my needs met by him.
After a long period of separation we got back together, and I just tell him what I want in a very matter-of-fact "adult" way. This nearly always works, if he is in the mood to listen. (I also keep eye-contact with him whilst I say it).
2007-03-12 07:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whats the big deal of rudeness being the aftermath of confidance?
I think its better to be a jerk than someones' whiney sniveling *****. If thats the price you have to pay to not be a door mat, its worth it.
Sure, you have to pick your battles, and sure, confiance isnt about being cruel, its about being better, but if that makes you come across as mean, big deal. At least your yourself, and if yourself is a prick, than learn to love it.
2007-03-12 07:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋