i am currently in a 5 year relationship and i have 2 children under 3, what i need help on is i have developed my desires for a 17 year old as i am yet to turn 21 years, i do not know what to do i have weighed up the pros and cons and i would be offered a better chance in life, the problem is i love my kids but i know that the younger man i want does not have the maturity to withstand and understand the novelty of children. please what should i do my current partner well i seem to finally realize that there is no cons so!
2007-03-12 00:11:09 · 20 answers · asked by kerryanne l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're going to regret this deciscion. Mark my words.
2007-03-12 00:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say more than desire for a young man, you are feeling bogged down with the responsibility of being a mother. Smotherhood I sometimes call it, because I have felt the same. You can lose your identity as a woman, and feel really frumpy and suffocated. There is little stimulation in day to day grind and the feeling that you are swamped with demands. You are still young, so I can see where you are coming from, and why you would feel attraction to a man with no ties or responsiblities of his own.
But you mentioned you were already with some one. Whats happened? Has the spark gone? Try talking to your partner. If there is still something between you, rekindle it. Don't throw it all away for a young boy who may well toss you aside when he discovers clubbing, partying and girls. Your children are tiny now, but will always love you and rely on you. It gets easier as they get older and more independent.
What about getting a babysitter and enjoying proper quality time with your spouse, as a friend and lover rather than just existing through the kids.
Still, only you know what position you are really in.
2007-03-12 07:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say if this 17 year old doesn't have any maturity and isn't able to help you raise your children then you don't need him. Don't lust after some guy who is too young and immature. Your kids are involved, do what's best for you and them as well. Don't just think of yourself. You know what's right and what isn't. If the one you're with now has no Pro's against him, is what I think you mean, then you need to find someone else. Someone who is more mature and someone who will take accept your children as well. Good Luck
2007-03-12 07:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is not working out then you need to move on - but not to a 17 year old boy - if he wasn't around would you stay with your partner or are you just looking for a bit of fun?? You have 2 young children to consider and yes a fling with a younger guy seems very attractive to you at the moment but it would be unfair on all concerned
2007-03-12 07:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy in your current life a 17 year old boy is not going to change that.....there are 2 things that you can do.
1........sit down with your fella and talk about what is wrong with the relationship, and see if you can change it for the better...
2.......tell your fella that you are leaving, get yourself a place for you and your kids on your own and then you can decide what your going to do, and if you feel like you want to pursue this 17 year old then that is up to you,as you will not be hurting any body except your self if it don't work out..
2007-03-12 09:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by missnicedell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to lok after your children , the 17 year old is out of the quetion for you until the day he tunrs 18. And he is a little youg to resume responsibility for 2 small children . You need to have a good talk with your current partner and tell him what you think . You are a mother nad have responsibilitys torward your children!
2007-03-12 07:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think you already no that the 17yr old isnt an option when you have the children, as you rightly said he lacks the maturity, and it would be unfair on him to face that kind of responsibility at that age, if youre that sure you dont want to continue with your partner, you need to tell him, you will be able to cope with the children with support, it is better for all of you, including the children, if you start a new, happier, life.
2007-03-12 07:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T BE STUPID YOUR THE GROWN UP HERE ACT LIKE IT!! I HAVE A 17 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND NONE OF HER 17 YEAR OLD MALE FRIENDS ARE MATURE ENOUGH TO TAKE ON THEIR OWN KIDS NEVER MIND A READY MADE FAMILY!!! WHY BURDEN SOME YOUNG BOY WITH A FAMILY HE'S FAR FROM READY FOR. 17 YEAR OLD SHOULD BE OUT HAVING FUN ENJOYING LIFE NOT STUCK AT HOME WITH SOME GIRL AND HER KIDS BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY HE HAS NO TIES TO YOUR KIDS AND SHOULD NOT HAVE THE RESPONSIBLITY FOR THEM
2007-03-15 13:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by doozer_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go sit in front of the jailhouse-that;s going to be your new home when you sleep with this 17 year old. Then your kids will be in child custody and welfare. Think about it long and hard.
2007-03-12 11:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a man for your children not another child.
Grow up and stop having those kind of fantasies!!!.
U r a mum now, not a little girl that can play around.
2007-03-12 07:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by iona 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
it would appear clearly obvious that you have a typical case of "stupid idiot typical slapper moron syndrome" you have no respect for you partner , children or even your sen, all 17 year old lads are wonderful, caring , respectfull and loving fellers, i know i was one. then you get the girl, tell all your mates and then move to the next one and brag even more..
open you mind and eyes to how men work, i love my missis so much and would never treat her with such disrespect,
you repulse me..,.
2007-03-12 15:14:13 · answer #11 · answered by jo_raz_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋