guys pls help me out,i think i am in worst condition of my life.actually my gf wants that i should break my friendship with one of my gud friends although i know my friends also likes my gf nd doing all possible things.....my gf says that u have 2 choose either its ur friend or me.i don't know what 2 do,i want both in my life.i know that my friend is playin games with me but he is quite decent person nd whenever i need sum help he always support me.
pls suggest me sumthing
i really confused i don't know what to do...
need ur help!!!!!!!
2007-03-11 23:39:33 · 49 answers · asked by sunny 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he is a really good and genuine friend like you think he is then choose him. At the end of the day your friendships last longer that your relationships so always choose them
2007-03-11 23:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your g/f is playing a "control" card here.
You should be talking with your friend and making sure he completely understands that your g/f is "hands-off" if he wants to stay your friend.
You also ought to be calling your g/f's bluff and telling her that she's not in charge of picking and choosing your friends. If she doesn't want you being with your friend, that she should be finding herself something (not somebody) else to be doing while you're spending time with your friend.
If you allow someone else to control your choices, who knows when it'll come to something even more serious and she'll be expecting you to do things the way she wants you to.
How happy will that make you to do things the way someone else wants you to...always?
Your g/f sound a bit immature or she'd be able to allow your friendships and trust you to make sure that your friends don't get too frisky with her. She's also partially responsible for what she _allows_ the friend to do.
2007-03-19 09:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by MJ D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love an friendship are two different things but are equally important to ones life
Most probably she is asking for more attention
I think you should try to find out a reason to why your gf asked for it at the first instance. Try to convince her that both are important just like Air and water. Air being the love and water being the friendship.
I think that if she loves you she will understand you.
2007-03-11 23:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by CoolestnHotest 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question have the answer. You have mentioned that your friends are playing games with you. I think it is some tricky games. If they play trick on you then they are not worth enough to be your friend. First ask your girl friend why she says to leave your friend. Because girls can analyse much better than boys.If you consider her points to be valid then act according to that. You life is in your hand so lead a great and successful life. ALL THE BEST
2007-03-17 21:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by kirthika D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should come first in this circumstance. Girls will come and go in your life. They may tell you to do several things in life also but that doesn't mean for you to listen to every single thing. Another thing to keep in mind. A good friend is hard to find and many take several years to replace. Keep your friend.
"Never take a friend for granted for one morning when you wake up, you may realize that you lost a precious gem because you were too busy collecting stones." Think about it, isn't your friendship more important to you than your girlfriend? I would say, "yes".
2007-03-12 08:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by riri4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship
2007-03-12 02:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by geet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you ask to your gf that if she really loves you then why she wants to break your friendship.I must say that she never except your any dicision in the whole life.
There is no condition in love or any type of relationships.If someone loves you then he/she has to except your all type of friendship nd relationship.
Now it depends upon you what you have to choose a conditional love or a pure friendship ?
2007-03-11 23:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur gf want that u should quit ur relationship between u &ur friends but don't forgive that u should set a thing in ur mind that if she is saying to patchup with ur friend in future she can also say to patch up with ur family and other love ones.ur friends are going to ever help u but the girl who saying to patch up with ur friends who never understand the true meaning of love because every love start with a great bond of friendship.so,PLEASE DON'T LEAVE UR FRIENDS.
2007-03-11 23:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by PUJA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a really good and genuine friend like you think he is then choose him. At the end of the day your friendships last longer that your relationships so always choose them
2007-03-19 11:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by msjamie2581 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your girlfriend is putting you in a really dogey situation. and it is not fair she is making you choose. because you should have to.
Depending how old you are and how serious the realtionship is i would normaly choose Friendship. Because girls come and go but friendships last forever.
I would talk to your girl firend and tell her it is not fair what she is doing and it is only pushin you away.
Also sometiems girls do this because she wants to know you love her and will do anything for her. yes its a dogey way of doing it but thats how we work.
You should say to her, I love you and all and i would do anything for you, but you can not make me choose between you and my friend it is not fair.
2007-03-11 23:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋