my wifes sister has been secretly cheating on her husband now for the last couple of months she has wore him down asking him to leave his house (he bought the house when they where seperated as she went with another man (cheating ) prior to them getting married .since hten theyhave haad a child .the problem is he is a fantastic husband and father but she reckons he is to nice.i have been best mates with him for 17 years so i told him to move in with us for a couple of weeks till he get somewhere to live but wifes sister has totally fallen out with me saying that i should stand by her .plus she is blaming me and other family members for spreading rumours about her having affair but everyone knows about this apart from the husband and he is telling family that he is disgusted with the rumours and doesnt want to see through why she wants him out.i havent said anythning but iam also being blamed what do i do
2007-03-11 23:26:09 · 8 answers · asked by garry w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why should you stand by her....shes the one doing the wrong thing and she needs to take responsibility for that. Your wife should also be supporting you, and not her sister in her adulterous affairs. This guy has been a buddy of yours for 17 years, you cant just desert him when he needs you. Shes got the house and it seems she is getting everything her own way Hes your best buddy....be honest with him....tell him, they are not just rumours....they are true......he needs to know the truth....he cant be kept in the dark any longer.
As far as I would be concerned....you make your bed you lie in it....Your sister-in-law has made the rod for her own back and she wants everyone to protect her....she should have thought about that before she started treating your buddy badly.......Make her own up to what she has done....protecting her is only minimizing what she has done......do the right thing by your buddy......she obviously has a mind of her own...let her deal with with what she has caused.....she is the one who has created this whole situation and she expects everone else around to support her....surely shes not stupid....why would anyone condone what she has done....and that includes family....sure, you can love someone who does the wrong thing, but wrong is wrong...she has to pay the price....there are always consequences for everything.
2007-03-11 23:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good always prevails over evil. Ignore her! Support the dude and help him find his feet. If the house is in his name he can legally have her removed but help him stay sane. Youre playing for the right team!
2007-03-12 00:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cheater thinks you should support her?
You should support the truth.
If that makes her look bad so be it.
Tell your mate to get back in his house and throw the lying cheating whore out.
Tell him to keep his kid as well.
2007-03-12 00:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally, i might say you ought to stay out of it yet that's your sister and that they have got infants, so her being uncovered to a serious sickness or public humiliation is going to harm you as properly. Have a sprint talk with brother in regulation and tell him you're directly to him, and you have evidence of his loss of character. (in case you do) coach her what you have got here across first so she has actual evidence of his infidelity. that's going to be very available while she gets uninterested and takes him to courtroom.
2016-10-18 04:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by seabrooks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel there is nothing to advise you to do except keep being the wonderful friend and family member you are ... as for your sister-in-law she has alot of growing to do. Something that you or anyone else can not do for her .... Goodluck :-)
2007-03-11 23:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Millii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess, your right to stand behind your friend.
Don't listen to what other people have to say, he needs your support right now.
He also need to get her out of his house and fight for custody of his children.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-12 00:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd distance myself from both of them! You don't want any of that crap to rub off on you. Butt out.
2007-03-12 00:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is so wrong no matter who's cheating
2007-03-12 01:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋