how do i move on?

Question

still with the same man, its now been 16 years, being really trying hard to understand him, I guess he loves me but isnt inlove with me. has no problem ignoring me, I think hes only with me because he doesnt want to pay support. he has said he loved me but doesnt get intimate with me cause he is under stress, iam not sure he is being he doesnt show it and sleeps fine as iam up all night chain smoking ,we have 2 girls together,sometimes he says he wants to be married lol without sex not. iam cunfused as heck,My mind says go and then it tells me know dont he needs me that there is something else going on. my heart says the same sometimes go , but wait .but hard when we always had a good sex life to Iam not interested , i say so what do you do he says takes care of himself if he cant get it up for me then whats up? says hes not cheating i do not believe that . then said it was because of is neck fusion. i think he is a coward, just cant tell the truth ., I guess question is what do I do

Answer 1

dontcha, I can feel where you're coming from, no I really mean I can feel it. It's starvation for love and affection. I would be willing to bet, that there is someone else and he's too spineless to say it is. How do you want to be married without sex? That's the part that is a puzzle to me.He rather masterbate than to have sex with you, then I sure will let him. Your mind tells you, that he needs you and he's telling you he don't. He has emotionally abandon you and you are willing to take this.Stop staying up chain smoking, sleep in another bedroom and start doing something that is fun for yourself. I would call a doctor to see if his neck fusion could cause him to be cold in the bedroom, if the doctor say that is not the problem, then you have a talk with him and tell him if he want to be alone then you can make that happen for him. Get your child support in order and your alimony, file for abandoment of emotions. If it is someone else, they won't like the fact that he has to reach into his pocket and pay for a wife and child that he has turned his heart off to. He maybe is trying to make you break first. Stop killing yourself by chain smoking over someone that's killing you emotionally. Get strong and decide what to do, present it to him and don't go back on your word. If he ever see that you won't stand on what you say, then he always act as if it's ok to treat you bad. One more thing, If he can get it up to masterbate, then he can get it up to have sex with you. If I was you, I wouldn' want sex now, if he was dripping with honey and his b@lls was gold.

Answer 2

You have to make a choice, either your going to go on living like that or your going to make changes.
My suggestion to you would be to tell him how you feel, make him understand that your not happy wit the way things are.
Hope this helps.

Answer 3

you can either live with or with out him do what you feel like if he won't marry you i don't know why since you two had children together i might of mis under stood are you two legally married?

Answer 4

Well you can tell him that the relationship is going to have to be over unless he changes. If he doesn't than you should seek for consoling.