I didn't have any feelings for her when our friendship started. However she told me she liked me a lot and that really made me proud at that time, nothing else. But as days and months passed by, i am developing these deep feelings for her. Whenever we talk, it is quite sexual. I have never had these feelings for a girl before. It actually hurts both of us cos our religion doesnt let us be like this. I haven't had any sexual or emotional issues with girls, but she has before. I am confused and i really feel that i am falling for her and i am a bit clueless whether she still has feelings for me. What should i do?
2007-03-11 22:48:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a girl by the way.
2007-03-11 23:03:04 · update #1
To clear it up; i am a girl who likes her friend and thinks she likes her back.
2007-03-11 23:04:28 · update #2
First off, I understand what you are saying. Homosexuality is commonly met with strong societal disapproval. This is based on a mythological mentality that for some reason we have found very hard to shed.
A homosexual relationship is just that- a *relationship*. Please be relaxed, you have done nothing wrong. Talk with her and please know good, bad, or indifferent dialog is the key ingredient in making things work. A relationship can work on several levels- as friends, as soulmates, as partners, etc. Don't feel the need to force things straight to marriage or living with each other. Take the time to really know each other and see where things take you.
Personally, I hold a dim view of religion. It sounds like you have a choice to make- either follow the religion or follow what feels normal for you. I'll spare you the diatribe; you have enough on your plate without me reiterating my objection to the religious condemnation of homosexuality.
2007-03-11 23:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by wanfuforever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to her and let her know how you feel, if you're living in the States then you can get married, I see no problem there, but if there is no rule in your country for people of the same sex to get married, then it's a difficult situation.
Marriage by the way is not the only solution, you can even live together
2007-03-12 05:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been talking sexually with her if you didn't have those feelings for her.
But now that those feelings have developed (surprise surprise), make a commitment or back off.
A LOT of gay relationships are secret, so it can be done.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 07:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mature and earning decent salary to keep you both active and alive, you should marry her. However, do not think of parenting the child for next 3 - 4 years till you are well settled.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-12 05:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
what are you waiting for, give it a spin if it works out it does if not then atleast you got some good dinner conversation for thanksgiving or christmas. You just might meet someone that you could spend your life with, something we all could be so lucky to find.
2007-03-12 05:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If iffy on the whole homosexuality thing, I am confident though that they should have the right to marriage.
Anyways if you like here what's wrong she's still a human being. And as far as letting religion rule your life, that makes you no better than suicide bombers.
2007-03-12 05:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
ok, from the hints you gave us, I guess you're a Moslem.So I am.The best way is to propose and marry her.Don't be afraid to do so.It does worth the risk.She may either refuse or accept your propose.If you think she loves you, then there's nothing to worry about.Ask her directly and gentely.I don't think you mean that you're a girl wanting to marry a girl! That's a big sin.Surely the ones saying that you're homosexual have misunderstood you.You mean, you're a boy who haven't ever loved a girl the way you love this girl and that's normal.Everyone has a love for himself/herself.
2007-03-12 05:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nice try, your a guy in real life jim stop posting under fake accounts to get people to say stuff then jerk off to it.
2007-03-12 05:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mel Gibson 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
talk to her
2007-03-12 05:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋