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Question

I am 23 yr old.i have a B.F. who is a yr older to me.i live in banglore and he is in Mumbai.v meet once in 3 months.otherwise,v talk on phone everyday for one hour and also sms in between. V r a great pair and have been going on for 4 yrs (since college).v r committed towards marriage also. V were together for 2.5 yrs den he got a job in Mumbai and I in banglore. He loves me a lot. I too love him. No probems between us. Now, the problem is in my office one guy likes me .(actually lot of guys do, as I am little more than avg looking) v talk to each other some times but only friends..so, I have started to like him also.moreover, he is of the same caste as me and dat attracts me as my parents wil not oppose. My B.f and I r of different religion. Actually, I dont care about this but this is also a point. Wat to do? Shud I think of breaking my current relationship? I am too comfortable with my current BF. But I also want this guy in my life. Plz advice

Answer 1

This is why long distance relationships don't work. I think you should make it clear that it is not working and either A. get married right away or B. start dating again and break up with him.

Answer 2

Usually how I always decided was to imagine......picture the rest of your life without your BF. Not one day ever again, to never hear his voice, see him smile or laugh, do the things together that you enjoy doing together.
Now this new guy at work. Picture the rest of your life in never knowing what "could have been" with him.
If that doesn't help, then it could very well be that you are just not IN LOVE enough to to settle down yet. After spending alot of time on the phone with someone, you get really comfortable with them & sometimes great friendship can feel like love. No one likes to be alone so sometimes we settle for the convienent & available.
Take your time & don't tie your self to one person. The right sexy man could come along and you would be unavailable. When you meet the man that you cannot imagine a single moment of your life without, the laugh you always want to hear & the smile you want to see every day, you will know it.
Good Luck Sweetie

Answer 3

Honey, i say you you stick to your bf..you both love each other and perfect for each other..he's a great guy too..so what more do you need?
Eventhough the other guy is of the same religion with you, how much you know about him ? how can you be sure that you will have a happy life with him? how can you say that he'll love you and you'll love him like ur bf? how can you say that he'll b as good guy as your bf?
many things you have to consider..dont spoil the relationship of 4 years for this reason only..
But you hv to decide by yourself. If you and your bf hv diff religions, is that a big problem to get married? is your religion or his religion allow mix marriages? are your parents opposed to your marriage with him? if not a big problem, i say go on with your bf..
Once you meet a perfect guy, dont let him go, coz this new guy might not be like ur bf..i dont want you to regret.
Sound to me that your bf is really a sweet guy, he's calling you everyday for one hour for 2.5 years. Most of the guys don't do that you know. Most of the guys get bored easily n won't bother to give time to gf once the relationship is more than a year..
I hope you can make a great decision..

Answer 4

If caste was the problem, u should have thought of this when u entered into a relationship with ur first BF. When u like someone else in absence of ur BF, then may be ur BF too in Mumbai may have some one else, who knows that.
First be sure with whom u are in love with & want to spend ur whole life. Don't just spoil ur character. If ur second BF comes to know that u had a BF earlier too, he will take u for granted.
So u urself think about it. Ask ur BF in Mumbai whether he still love u and planning to marry u. If u get -ve reply then think of the 2nd one. Or else u will be nowhere.

Answer 5

If it were your long-distance boyfriend asking the equivalent question, what would you say?
One way or another, you have to be fair to your boyfriend, and it isn't fair to hold on to your two options for long. If you ask yourself, not "what is the easiest thing to do" but, with honesty towards your own feelings, "what is the most honourable thing to do", then you'll be less likely to end up in a mess. Doing the honourable things also means that once you make the decision (either way), you don't ever allow yourself to wonder what life would have been like if you had gone the other way.

Answer 6

Security isn't something to base a relationship on. Your love for your boyfriend is apparently fading or coming to an end if you are even thinking about another guy. And if you are feeling this way about this other guy, a long distance relationship with your boyfriend might not last much longer. Besides, you are only 23 years old. Give it a try.

Answer 7

I would give it a lot of thought. It sounds like you aren't too sure of the relationship you have previously built. Take your time. You are young. You have plenty of time to become involved in a "serious" relationship. The way you feel isn't fair to the guy in Mumbai. Maybe you should let him go for now.

Answer 8

Follow what your heart says... but if i'm in your position, i'll still choose my long-time bf. You know each other well, for you've been together for many many years. You know each other's strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, principle in life... things like that... and all that bonding you had in those many years cannot just stop because you were attracted to a new guy who just recently came into your life... Just talk to him in a nice way, not hurting his feelings. I'm sure he'll understand...

-Adrian
Roxas City, Philippines

Answer 9

in the starting up you want to drop your expectations of it. that's not almost as magical as Hollywood makes it out to be! yet, in case you want it to be, make certain of right here: a million save it clean, ie keep on with kissing! 2 ensure that the kiss follows some romantic journey, and the lady is in the right body of options. 3 do no longer attempt to swallow her total! comfortable caressing butterfly motions artwork best. putting your hand in the back of her head will also help in turning out to be the right environment, as she will be able to experience secure and supported. 4 Numer 4 is the No Hand On yet rule! precisely what it says. restriction your loose hand's circulation to her shoulders, back or face. this isn't foreplay, yet a romantic kiss. bear in options that!! nicely i am hoping i helped!

Answer 10

you know you are exactly in my situation, but i dont like anyone in the office , me and my fiance have been together for 2 years we intend on getting married this summer, however at my workplace alot of guys flirt with me, me and my fiance are also in two different countries i am in the UK and he is back home in morocco, personally i think that you hsould stay with your bf because you said you love him, so dont let any guy come inbetween your relationship i know its hard having a long distance relationship and there are alot of temptations out there but we need to be patience for the one we love, who knows that guy in the office may not even like you he may just find you attractive , please dont give up on ur boyfriend, i know that deep down in your heart you love your boyfirend unconditionally ,its just all these temptations aroudn you that are making it hard, when you think of this other guy try to think of your boyfriend and all the good times u spent together just keep sayying to yourself, you love your boyfriend, i think that if you give up on him and leave him so quickly , you will regret it later, be wise i dont actually think you want this new guy from the office in your life, i think your mind is telling you that but deep down your heart wants your boyfriend, if you want to chat via msn you can add me my address is [e-mail] (im female)