does any one feel this way?

Question

ive been with my partner along time but the spark has gone, and i find myself missing the buzz that you get when dating.

Answer 1

yes i get that feeling quite often.
try going on a date and pretending its your first and asking each other all sorts of questions, however bizarre! me and my hubby tried it, and it was so funny we had a fab night and it gave a lift to our sex life too!!
leave messages around, write i love you in lipstick on the mirror, send hor*y texts, get out on your own with him as often as possible, kidnap him, take him to woods with a picnic and get intimate on the rug, play a drinking game taht involves stripping... can be hard to do after so long together, but if you make the effort he will have to too!!!
buy sexy films, toys, clothes. write each other a letter telling each other what you really want the other to do to you that night (nothing illegal please!!)
kick start your imagination. have a totally different holiday to the one you would normally take, start a new project together (avoiding activities that you clash on, eg - my hubby and i CANNOT put thing like beds/shelves etc up together as we row about it).
hold hands when you go shopping. kiss him passionately when you get in.
surprise each other.
have fun!!

Answer 2

When you took your vows and the Minister or J.O.P. spoke to the both of you, and you exchanged your vows,.......in which I have never heard it either when I was married or when I attended the weddings I was invited to, .........I never once heard anyone ever make a promise or inform any of the marrying parties that;

Love will never end and you will wake with a never-ending feeling of bliss everyday.

Everything is going to go smooth, and you will feel as if you are at a amusement park all the time.

You are going to be excited with your spouse everyday and everyday will feel like your wedding day.

You will sustain your youth and everything will be giddy and happy and you will never have an off day.

NO! The vows addressed as well as the Minister/J.O.P. advised of days of better and worse. Sickness and Health, .....ups and downs. Through thick and thin. That neither was to put anything, any person, or any situation above their spouse.

Everyone wants to get married and play the game,.......but, how quick everyone forgets the rules and what to expect. How convenient.

I guess some are so caught up in the Wedding gowns they bought, the rings, the big sha-bang, the flowers, the cake, the catering, the smiles and laughter, the gifts, support of friends and family, the honeymoon, and the new house and signing their name as Mrs Joe Wonderful,...........that life actually takes place and shows it's ugly face afterwards.

There's great beginnings in almost every single marriage, but, only the strong and well informed and ones with scruples are the ones that make it.

Anybody can get married,............it takes special people to make it a marriage.

Answer 3

Thats just the new relationship spark. Now you should have a nice warm fire of dependability and feelings toward each other. The guy sometimes quits trying to catch your attention or affection. The woman stops going the extra step in sex instead its starting to get a little more bland and routine. Its a curse of a lazy relatioship where both partners are not talking to each other about what they want and what is making them unhappy in the relationship. Instead its just an along for the ride type feeling. While you may be sayin where's the spark he may be thinking "this is getting boring" also. Talk with him trust, honesty, and comunication are all very important in a good relationship.

Answer 4

Yeah, I do. We actually almost broke up, we went on a "break". In that time though I realized that the honeymoon phase of a relationship does go away. I think this is why people are waiting until later in life to settle down. I know this is normal to feel. Now is the time in the relationship that you need to decide whether or not you love them enough to stay with them. Also, there are ways to get some of that spark back. Think of new things to do together, don't fall into the same boring way of life. Just do something that you both will enjoy that is different. Don't just go to dinner and a movie. Maybe go for a walk somewhere in a park, or something that suites your styles.

Answer 5

Yes, it happens quite a lot with people who have been together a long time - if we get a bit like that we just talk about it and suggest things that we can do. It's the easiest thing, but a nice posh meal (usually a nice meal from Marks & Spencer put in the oven is enough!) with a glass of red wine - once the kids are in bed - it normally happens when life has been hectic for a while and we haven't really talked or actually looked at each other properly for a while. It's normal, don't worry too much, good luck!

Answer 6

The spark always goes which is why people can't base their relationships on purely physical attraction. And a successful marriage is worked at. Try and do something different like take up a new hobby that you two can do together. Something that makes you laugh and enjoy each other's company.

Answer 7

Ask yourself if the cosy familiar is enough.......if not time to get out. The spark does go, but if you pick wisely there is enough else to make you want to stay. Only you will know how you feel, but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Dont string anyone along - be true to yourself and fair to all others.

Answer 8

I exactly know what you feel. I have the same, and I think it is a part of being in a relation. When being in love, turns inot love itself, you will start missing the exictement. The trick is to keep it intersting, you have to work hard on that. And trust me, I know that is difficult. But you have to give it your best shot, and at least talk about it. Talk is the single most important in a relationship.

Answer 9

Get used to this 'cause it comes & goes all through your life. It's hard to always be on the same level as your partner, we all go through changes at different times. Now that you can see the prob the ball's in your court to come up with a fixit.

Answer 10

I know what you mean..but they say love gets stronger when you have been together a long time..I think people take each other for granted after a while and feel they dont need to make the effort....but they should coz you never know wots round the corner!