why Does happily ever after only last 10 years??

Question

most people only last 10 years before they get a devorce and most dont last that long

Answer 1

Because reality sinks in.

Answer 2

First of all, let's place the phrase where it belongs......
"Happily ever after" comes from fairy tales, and that's what it is.

If you look in the concept of Fairy tales (Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, etc) most take place in a time where there were castles and such. Well, on the average, back then people were lucky to live into their late 30s, so 10 years after marriage would be about right.

However, in modern times people live a lot longer and there are several factors.

1. The Seven Year Itch.......By the time you have been married 7 years, usually there is a baby or 2, you dont get as much sleep, sex has become routine. And you have heard every one of your spouses stories and jokes a dozen times.
Simply put, you start to get bored with each other, just as you would be bored if you watched the same movie every day or played the same video game for 7 years. And chances are she has put on a couple of pounds after child birth, and he no longer says excuse me when he burps.

2. Disposable Society.....
During the great Depression, and the years following people learned not to waste a single thing. Save that old newspaper to kindle a fire, save that jar to reuse for canning or to put soap in. Sharpen a blade rather than buy a new one, etc.
Today, people have more income and would rather buy a replacement than get an item fixed. And most of us use disposable lighters, diapers, paper plates, etc.
This attitude has stepped over into relationships as well....
Why go to all the work to mend a relationship when you can just get rid of the old and get a new one with someone else.

Like anything else worthwhile, life and relationships take work, love and sometimes compromise. And the desire to make things last.

Answer 3

I don't think that people are choosing their husbands or wives any worse than they were choosing them 50 years ago.

I do think that if you realize you screwed up, or if you change too much for it to keep working, it's easier to get a divorce. You know more people who have divorced, so you don't feel like you'd be the freak. And if you feel like you want to start dating again, you have more options.

Also, women are more and more independent. Nowadays they can just continue with their job (or find a new one) and while things might be rough, they'll be okay. This wasn't always the case -- 50 years ago, women didn't really work, or they were not paid well enough to survive on their own. By making it reasonable for women to work, you're doubling the number of people who can file for divorce!

Answer 4

Then they are obviously not happily ever after now are they? Happily ever after is not always the case and people do not work at their marriages and or relationships to make them last forever more ... If we would just work at things when times get tough or try to make it work or love unconditionally who knows maybe forever after would be a reality dont ya think? People give up way to easy now a days.

Answer 5

Brenda--it doesn't have to end--most couples don't understand that life as a couple is tough--pressures and strains tug at the very cords that hold it together---the big failure is in communications--no talk--no info shared---all of a sudden it is over and no one knows why--can't happen if you two talk and share---and take time for yourselves--even a day away or an hour of relaxing time together---make it happen---nothing is as important as your married life together--so keep the fire going--often. Little looks and smiles and winks----flowers and candy---all cheap ways of saying " hey I love you !!" The relationship dies if it is allowed to die--that's a fact....so keep it going--talk, laugh, smile...touch...respect each other---hey you can't lose. Good luck, Brenda

Answer 6

My marriage started after 18 years and it is better then it was when we first got marryed.

Answer 7

I guess you just get tired of the same old routine. I found that changing your atmosphere will keep the relationship new and exciting. Who wants the same old shizznit, ya know? Keep it fresh and freaky naughty and it will be all good!

Answer 8

my first divorce was after 10 years of marriage my 2nd 1year and a half ended it just didn't work out

Answer 9

Because most people give up on the tests of life and rather cheat themselves through it.

Answer 10

It lasts as long as you and your partner remain committed to one another and in love.