Do you think some things are ok for others but not good enough for you? Like in terms of achievements or appearance or whatever? I hope that kinda makes sense. Just wondering, any imput is welcome.
2007-03-11 21:50:00 · 11 answers · asked by Jay 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To be honest, for each person I know it seems to be different. I tend to look more at what a person is able to do or be and set a standard by this.
There are people I am thinking of that miss their mark(that I think they should be hitting) and I know will never get it. Others who hit the mark all the time. Etc.
And yes, the same for me as well.
If you graphed this each person would have their own page and everyone would look different for the most part.
2007-03-11 22:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Threeicys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people who have high standards tend to fall into one of two categories, with some overlapping between the two. First, there is the group of people who hold themselves to high standards and are so focused on achieving those goals that they don't really consider other people's standards. They just assume they will be the one with the best grade, or who dates the person they are attracted to, or who is at the cutting edge of fashion, or whatever their standard includes. If pressed, a lot of these people may believe that they hold others up to the same standards, but deep inside they really put themselves at the forefront as the standard bearer.
Second, are people who have in the past tried to hold others to their own high standards, but have realized over time that others will never live up to that standard. This may be just because they have set the bar for their expectations too high, or it also may be because it is a subjective standard. Or some combination of the two.
Of course, all this deals with high standards or standards of perfection - things that are "OK for others but not good enough for you" as you put it. I think there are also certain basic standards of human decency that are, or at least should be, universal. While I do not expect other people to push themselves as hard as I do, for example, I do expect them to make certain minimal efforts, such as bathing, being generally polite to other people, not committing crimes, and the like.
2007-03-11 22:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Fire Horse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - I hope and somewhat expect people to behave and act on the higher side of the norm according to their age, education, and upbringing. Children will act like children, but they have limits to rudness. A hardworking High school grad with manners rates higher to me then a college grad who is a snob and can not pick up after themselfs.
Appearance varies, I can be open but there are rules of social engagement that people need to come close to. If only for the respect of the people who are hosting the social function.
2007-03-11 22:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Carl P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot have a different standard for other people other than myself, because my standards are my own personal preference coming from my up bring, the things I was tought as a child. Other people standards are their own, I think acceptance of other is important. You do not have to befriend some one who you think have lower and/or bad standards than you, and it does not necessary mean the person with lower standards are not as good as you.
But do not lower your standards to fit in.
2007-03-11 22:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I hold myself to a very harsh standard. I think of it more as an affliction sometimes and wonder why I can't be happier with less like others seem to be.
2007-03-11 22:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer probably... i used to be relatively, rather shy in individual. Now, i'm plenty extra open, yet I nonetheless choose I had slightly extra self assurance to be accessible. on line, i think of I certainly have that self assurance, only using fact i be attentive to i do no longer ought to difficulty approximately what human beings think of. I advise, you don't be attentive to me. So, you do no longer care how nerdy I sound on line. I choose i should be myself. Wow. That become relatively depressing.
2016-11-24 21:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the person, i expect my true friends to be true, and except me as i am just like i do them. and yes i have a higher standard for myself then todays morals.
2007-03-12 09:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I expect only a minimum from others.
2007-03-11 22:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do since we are more or less "subjective" whether we care to admit to it or not.
2007-03-11 21:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody is equal
2007-03-18 06:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋