If you found out your spouse was cheating would you stay?

Answer 1

Only under three conditions.

One, you have kids together.

Two, you have a lot of love, patience, and really, really love her and are willing to deal with the betrayal in your mind for YEARS.

Three, she is willing to give her stud up.
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Answer 2

When you say cheating do you mean that your spouse was intimate with someone else? If that's the case you might want to make certain before you are again intimate with them that they have gotten no diseases that they might pass on to you.
About whether or not to stay...
Seek out the underlying reason for the cheating ( was it just a spur of the moment thing, are you fulfilling your part of the marriage and does your partner seek more than you're giving in some area) and then try to determine if it is something that will continue.
I would better estimate my decision on whether this will be an ongoing thing before I made the decision to leave or stay.
If it appears to be something that will continue and you can clearly see that, leave or make it quite clear that if it does happen again that you will.
Honesty and trust are very important in a marriage. If you can't have these things you have little left on which to base a life long relationship.

Answer 3

I have no patience for idiots. Leave w/o notice. They would understand why. There is no reason, absolutely no reason to remain in a farce of a relationship with a cheater. It would make no sense. Love, trust and understanding as foundations of a relationship is critical and necessary for a happy couple. If that is missing, obviously it wasn't meant to be. IF that foundation was laid, cheating wouldn't have occurred at ALL in the first place. There are some marriages that have lasted decades in which neither partner cheated. Ask yourself, Do you deserve anything less than decades of happiness with the right person? Even if there was a child involved, care for the child wouldn't save a marriage or relationship. If nothing else, it would negatively affect the child to be stuck in between a bitter couple. Leave them, and in the long run it would be better for the both of you. Teach them to respect you as a person and they will in turn respect the person they were truly meant for. Now, this is all great, but make sure before you leave you take everything that is yours with u in the same day ( I. E. Pets), and dust off the pre-nup. LOL

Answer 4

Simple answer. Don't know.
I amrried a person and not an ideal, I know that people screw up. I understand that some screw-ups are worse than others. I know that one persons valid reason is another persons excuse.
Emotionally there can never be justification for cheating on someone but in reality people do stupid things sometimes. I don't think that I could ever foregive but if everything else in the relationship is good is it worth loosing the relationship because of a stupid mistake.
Really don't know and hope never to find out.

Answer 5

It would depend on whether I felt there was a chance it could be worked out. If it was just a one time fling or a long term relationship would play a huge part in the decision making. If I did stay there would definatly be an agreement made to seek counseling so that it hopefully would not happen again. HTH

Answer 6

No, I would not because trust would be a huge issue for the marriage. When talking over why, what did I do to deserve this? The one of a kind answer s/he did not mean anything to me or s/he don't mean anything to me. So s/he is saying they laided in the bed and she just was fell into or he just fell into it. There is no excuse, if people don't want to be with their mate they should seriously address the issue with their mate and let the relationship go. If the trust is gone then how and the marriage survive. Why go through where is s/he and what are they doing and/or who is s/he with. Why put your self through that?

Answer 7

you mean would you be so insecure and idiotic that you'd wait around for it to occur again since obviously this spouse has no moral fiber??? Nah, I'd either pretend like I was all good and then disappear suddenly when the partner was away at work or something...or else I'd go have a bloody fukkfest of my own and shove it right in there dirty whore cheatin face!!! Make up your mind!

Answer 8

i always thought i would leave but i just had to make this decision a month ago and i chose to stay. what made me stay?

number 1, our 2 baby girls 3 years old and 1.5 years old. and there love for him.

my love for him

the fact that it was not a long term affair just a short fling. (4 times same month)

the fact that he came home on his own and confessed, i never would have known. plus it seems sincere

the fact that on his own he broke off all contacts with her by changing numbers, changing jobs, and us moving. (she has gone a little pyscho)

the fact that he gave up drinking, started going to church and agreed to counseling.

and most importantly that we had marital problems that he did come to me about but i did nothing to fix it and so basically sent him into another girls arms. so in our case the fault is 50/50.

Answer 9

I wouldn't say too much to them but sure would act out on them.
Like DIVORCE and hope they thought it was worth it.
Because when I get screwed around I would like a smile on my face!!!

Ps. Talk to my lawyer! Yes you know the one your paying for!
How do you like that for sex and travel???

Answer 10

you can never replace broken trust no matter how hard you try.
it will eat you away inside and ruin your life.and the person that cheats will never understand,they think hey ive apoligised so everything is hunky doory.