we are due a mini break soon and our flight is really early in the morning yet he is still on about this big lads day out the day before which he will be extremely drunk from. i wouldn't dream of still going out if i knew i had to be up really early the next day plus its going to cost a fortune. i can just see it now him being hungover as anything and ruining our first day by wanting to just slepp and stuff. he is going to be 27 soon when will he grow up!!!!!! if i say anything and he doesnt go then its my fault or he will just say i am being stupid. i am so annoyed all he seems interested in is football, and drinking. we have been together almost 6 years.help please any advice.......
2007-03-11 21:18:42 · 22 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should break-up with him. Why would you be with someone who calls you stupid anyways? Leave him and let him see how life will be without you.
2007-03-11 21:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear you have a bad dilema there. I watch the footy with the lads and go on all days benders quite often (although since reaching my late twenties its not as regular). We dont do it on purpose its just that when you are with your mates and drinking you seem to get caught in the moment and lose count of the drinks and track of time.You are right about the hangover, he will feel awful. Problem is he won't want to lose face with the boys as this is probably tradition. You will have to put your foot down and threaten to take a mate if he doesnt miss the day out or offer to pick him up from the pub an hour or so after the game before he gets too drunk. Good luck
2007-03-11 21:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men in general are not selfish, and you owe men an apology for that. Your boyfriend has problems, but you've chosen to stay with him for almost six years in spite of them. That's your problem. Those who stay together longer than three years without making a commitment will eventually break up anyway. That's a simple, factual observation made by people who follow these things much better than I do. It's time to look the problem in the eye, stop blaming others and make a decision.
2007-03-11 21:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, because drinking and going out is fun! Hmm, yes the hang over might not be so great and if he doesn't want to miss his night out wiht his friends, which he probably shouldn't because having friends is just as important, then perhaps he shouldn't drink so much when he goes out or he could just stay up all night and go drunk. That's fun too! And I never had a problem boarding a plane while buzzed. If he can keep his mouth shut and isn't so drunk he's falling over, they'll never know.
If all his interests are is football and drinking, why are you with him though? While there's nothing wrong with him going out to party with friends, there is something wrong with his only interest being football. Buy him some books.
2007-03-11 21:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why be with someone who is a bad match for you????
Do an inventory of what you want in life, and whether this fellow helps you towards those wants, or stands in the way of these wants..
Quit thinking of making him less selfish... this is misdirected energies, because truth is, everyone is selfish and all acts are selfish... you just need to find someone who's selfishness aligns with your own life agenda.
2007-03-12 04:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey not all of us guys are like that--you are tolerating a bad situation--and that is your fault. you are not tied to him--it is a free country--go get a real nice man who acts his age and has respect for you in all ways. This is all on you. You say that you are annoyed, he acts stupid and as a child--so why stay?? 6 years is nothing--you have nothing to show for it--time is wasting...have a nice trip and then look for a REAL man.
2007-03-11 21:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, my x was a drunken lout, gets violent, makes promises he can't keep, ruining all weekends we had together
an was too hungover to do anything the next day with me and his son. he's coming up to 27yrs soon and no he'll not GROW UP either
2007-03-12 00:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called supply and demand. Girls find nice guys unattractive. Girls don't appreciate nice guys. Guys turned from nice loving guys into selfish jerks in order to be considered attractive.
2007-03-12 01:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone once told me most men are still cave-men. If they see a woman bent over they think that's an invitation...
dunno if that can help you...
its hard competing with a ball, long socks, and pints...
No easy answer I know of... wish I did know...
Cheer up though! Can't all be bad?
2007-03-11 21:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's late with his night out he also runs the risk of still being drunk when you board the plane - they might not let him on. If it were me I'd leave him to it. If he isn't fit to travel when the day comes, just go by yourself. It might give him time to think about his actions and it might also give you time to review your relationship....
2007-03-11 21:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Rachael H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋