My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We fight maaaybe once a month, and always come to a peaceful resoloution.
I have friends who fight every day with their boyfriends. They seem really insecure, and have all kinds of issues. Is that typical? Are my husband and I the exception to the rule, or are my friends just in bad relationships? I try to tell them that it seems wrong to be with someone that you dont trust, and that you fight with all the time, but of course, they think its love. Whats the deal?
2007-03-11 20:58:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems illogical to me to be miserable with your partner for 90% of the time, and think that being happy 10% of the time is enough.
What do you think?
2007-03-11 20:59:45 · update #1
I think they are mixed up...They think love and hate are the same thing...For one to be miserable everyday of their lives, makes you wonder if they think so little of themselves that they need to feel bad everyday....Someday they will realize how dumb it is to live life that way...
2007-03-11 21:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's normal OR healthy to fight with your partner every single day. Though no couple is perfect, if you're in a relationship that centers around non stop fighting, you might want to try counseling or move on and find someone you're compatible with. Also, have you seen the statistics on abuse? Not all relationships turn violent, but in every instance you can see that it started with emotional abuse first. Be sure that you know the difference.
2007-03-11 21:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cujo's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had one of those fights with my love, but I think people observing us would think we are fighting a lot. We share a sardonic sense of humour and are constantly throwing insults back and forth and arguing just for fun.
We do have disagreements and if we're tired or too hung over it might turn into me leaving the room for all of 5 minutes to calm down and collect my reason, but yea, I don't think I have the temperment for a constantly dramatic, issue filled relationship. It sounds like your friends might need to invest in a course on reality.
2007-03-11 21:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say but it is not normal. It is because if you fight not daily often, that is what you call normal. Anyways, do you people know what true love is ????
There is only few times of fighting and more on other things like LOVE. I hope I helped. Thanks for your time!
2007-03-11 22:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by tash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Couples who fight all the time have control issues. Each is wanting to be right all the time and are unwilling to find a compromise and are generally selfish.
2007-03-11 21:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not right to fight. But then it's not right for people to get married either since humans, by virtue of our biology, are not meant to be monogomous. Remember, "marriage" is a human invention and does not occur in the natural order of things. At the end of the day, we are just another animal on this planet.
2007-03-11 21:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by D in SD 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Not normal to fight every day. It's normal to hug everyday.
2007-03-11 21:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE the exception now. but back in the day both party's tried and listen to partners.
2007-03-11 21:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the couples have more affections or possessiveness towards each other they often fight and if they dont realise their mistake or forgive eachother its because of their ego and i think you are very lucky in this case
2007-03-11 21:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There wrong and that is why your married and your friends only have bfs.lol
2007-03-11 21:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋