She asked me then if she should change her last name to mine. At the time I told her do what you want. Now it bothers me that I see her old marriage name. I've ask her to change it. For some reason she does not want to change it and we fight all the time about it. Is there something wrong with me or her?
2007-03-11 20:17:23 · 13 answers · asked by Mr. Fool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your issue is not about the name, but about power and control.
Pick your battles carefully. Seems to me like as time has gone past, you want to control her more, and she is resisting.
Seek counseling for both of you, together.
2007-03-11 20:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didnt say whether she had any children from the previous marriage, if so maybe she wanted to keep the same name as her child. When I get married to my fiance, I am keeping my current last name so my child does not feel left out being the only person in the house with that last name. it makes perfect sense, and it does not change who's wife/husband you are. It's only a name.
2007-03-11 20:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning calling your spouse a "bleach blond bimbo" and "mendacity w*ore" is so disrespectful. you ought to verify the thank you to grasp her. She would have a shady previous yet that's what that's a prior. Marriage is for the long haul. no longer till you come across out something which you do unlike. i think counseling is honestly something you the two ought to get handed your insecurities and have confidence themes. maximum folk make blunders and do issues that they are ashamed of at the same time as attempting to enhance up and study who they are. in case you had all those situations approximately who you needed or no longer needed to marry possibly you ought to have many times happening your spouse extra useful in the past you made an entire life dedication.
2016-11-24 21:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old Marraige name? Maiden name or the name she had with some other guy. If she wants to keep her maiden name, let her. If she has some other dude's name, I'd be really angry.
2007-03-11 20:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by indieforcutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her why she insists on keeping the previous name?
Have you seriously and CALMLY told her that it upsets you?
I know hindsight is 20/20 but, when you first told her she could do what she wanted, you should have thought a little harder.
Keep communicating (listen as well as talk)...fighting is a dead end road.
2007-03-11 20:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-11 21:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u screwed up dude u shoud,ve had change that name when u got married now u got 2 live with it
2007-03-11 20:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by crengle60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you, she should have your name, not her ex husbands name, why should he deserve it. He is not in your marriage, and what will happen if you have children, they have to have your name. Does she hate your name, if so tell her to use her maiden name or use her maiden name and your surname with a hyphen.
2007-03-11 20:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by chez006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she already asked you and you said that she should do what she wants, and now that she doesn't want to change it, you're kinda sh*t outta luck.
2007-03-11 20:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by christina rose 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her.
Why would she want to hang on to her ex-husband?!
Seems like she's hiding something, some old feelings that never left or something!?
2007-03-11 20:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋