his wife to be is 7 months pregnant and he has another son from someone else. i love him but i think its too late. he said he'll call me back tomorrow so we can talk about this.
what kind of advice can i give him to make sure he says "i do" on Saturday....pls i am desperate ....i still love him but he needs to move on with his life and i with mine....
2007-03-11 20:15:47 · 13 answers · asked by centralmite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't answer the phone tomorrow and change your number. There is nothing to talk about.
Just imagine you were his poor wife-to-be. What would you want another woman to do if you were in her situation?
2007-03-11 20:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by why 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, it's too late. Don't tell him anything. Don't answer if he calls or even bother hashing out his feelings. He's already VERY involved with someone else. Would you want to be his wife to be? His true colors are showing and they're not pretty. If he did decide not to get married, he'd probably end up leaving you at some point because he's being cowardly and trying to hold onto you when you know it's over and there's no point in trying again. If you don't talk to him, I would bet he'd go ahead and get married.
Just be glad you're rid of this loser. He's got no morals or loyalty. If you don't talk to him, he has no other choice. At least, he can't blame you for not getting married and hurting his pregnant gf. If you took him back, he would blame you. Listen to your gut and keep looking forward. You'll only fall down if you keep looking back at the loser. Just remember, if you were pregnant and about to get married, you wouldn't want your husband to be calling his ex and having that ex listen to his sob story and feeling sorry for him. He made his bed, let him lay in it without you.
2007-03-12 03:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want my honest opinion, I think he is looking for closure with you and having second thoughts about this other woman that he is getting ready to marry. If you care about this guy, I'd sit down and talk with him. I'd give him the closure that he is searching for, and then I'd tell him to think about whether or not he is marrying this other woman for the right reasons. A child is no reason to get married. He will have a lifetime relationship with this woman as parents, but he does not need to marry her for the sake of the child. Children grow up and have lives of their own, as long as the parents are civil and have their child's best interests at heart the children will be fine. Maybe he will feel better and see things a little clearer once he talks with you. Who knows, your ex could turn into one of your best friends; after all I wouldn't date a guy that I wouldn't have as a best friend anyway. Good luck!
2007-03-12 03:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right idea of not wanting to get back involved, if he has a baby on the way then he should be in it's life and not have to be passed from mom to dad over the weekends, i was a child of divorced parents and it wasn't fun......But tell him he only thinks he has feelings for you and it is the pre-wedding gitters,tell him he is just nervous and scared about getting married, and that he needs to do the right thing and be a good father and not ruin what he is so close to having........hope it helps
2007-03-12 03:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Gower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a loser. He's toying with your emotions, and his wife-to-be's emotions. If he's doing her this way, imagine if you guys got married--it would end up the same way. Not a good guy, and you definitely deserve someone better. Just ignore the call on Saturday. Don't talk to him ever again.
2007-03-12 03:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look..there is something wrong here! Can you not see it..If you Love him you'll let him go because obviously his commitment to you may be as temporary as it has been to all the others...Some guys just are not the marrying kind. He needs to fix his other obligations first before ntrying to tackle you! Sorry to say you might be in for a miserable relationship if you can't see the warning signs!.
2007-03-12 03:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it like this:
The guy has 2 children, and is seriously considering dropping his pregnant fiance to go off with you.
1. What makes you think you won't be in her shoes in 7 months?
2. If the guy is considering leaving his pregnant fiance for you, he's worse than scum and you can do better.
2007-03-12 03:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i completely understand...my ex is not getting marry yet but he is getting married soon and everything i talk to him now even though he considers us as friends...he still tells me he loves me and then i ask him if he loves me to the point that you can leave your fiancee he was like no...he says it is the kinda of feelings of love hidden deep away...i completely understand...i really want a change...like to move on...cause i feel talking to him is like holding me back from other opportunities...okay my advice is don't talk to him...don't think about him...he is a confused man...and with him saying this is just luring you into giving him something more like the power of love...he wants to know if you still love him...just move on...forget the guy, he is not really worth your time.
2007-03-12 03:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you are ex's for a reason remind him of that. It seems like his a just acting about because is afraid to commit. Maybe he is not ready . . . leave him to figure it out for himself just tell him that you are his friend and you will be there to support him no matter what. Baby or no baby there is no need to start a marriage that one is not totally ready for. If seems like you ex needs to do some "soul searching" and quick.
2007-03-12 19:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Janell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him. it's obvious by his actions(getting two women pregnant) that he's not someone to be bothered by. just tell him that's it's over. i suggest if he loves you and not his soon-to-wife, then he shouldnt get married to her. it will ruin their marriage and cause them alot of problems. not to mention them getting hurt and all..
2007-03-12 03:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by vrules 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋