I lost a friend (mrs x) as I lied to her husband (mr x) i was visiting a friend who quarreled with her spouse.( truthfully was to visit a best friend overseas for moral support who discovered a cheating husband.) Next day when the missus called,I told mrs x the truth and told her not to disclose it as I was closer to her. However they both discovered I had been telling different story( because they tell each other everything which I respect and didn't know). I was a fool... I had no malice or ill will to do so.It was purely to protect my best friend privacy. I thought as a woman she would understand but when I returned from my trip I was told mrs X felt I am a liar and not a desirable and dishonest friend. I was crushed and called Mr X to explained but he felt my conduct was unchristian like and not acceptable. I felt things are not so bad that I should be sidelined..Am i wrong?
2007-03-11 19:57:43 · 6 answers · asked by ruth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
honesty is always the best policy, go and ask for forgiveness, it is the healer of relationships
2007-03-11 20:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not only did you lie, you also talked about things which were of no business to you. This is why it is unchristian to talk about others behind their backs, as you hurt your friends, and you are trying to defend your position instead of looking at the mayhem you caused in your friends' lives. It is better to not talk about anything and to pray about it instead. If you had done so, you would not have lost your friends and been called a liar.
2007-03-11 20:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never a reason to lie. You were meddling in a marriage and it came back to bite you, even though you protest you were doing so to protect Mrs.X. A hard lesson, but one you've hopefully learned well. Let people handle their own affairs, especially married couples. Don't beat up on yourself if your intentions were truly sincere, but don't repeat the same mistake twice. Take care of your own life. Live it truthfully and honorably and let others manage their own.
2007-03-11 20:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm confused. doesnt sound like that big of a lie, and seems like you were trying to do the right thing. if they dont want you as a friend, forget about them, also, inform Mr. X that is is unchristianlike not to forgive people (also not respecting the privacy of another person isnt all that acceptable)
2007-03-11 20:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by MissCrys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always bad business to interfere in a friend's relationship.
How they run their relationship is none of your business.
Move on.
2007-03-11 20:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all they need to get over it.lol
2007-03-11 20:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋