people who have happy marriages?

Question

i dont know anyone who has a happy marriage. my parents just need to get a divorce i dont get why there even married, my mom cheats on my dad and cant stand him. also i think i read some where that like 55% of people who get married end up in divorce. so does anyone here have or know someone who has a happy marriage?

Answer 1

I'm with you on this one. Nobody I know has had a happy marriage or lasting one at that.

I don't plan on getting married just because I know it would end in divorce and a major waste of money.

Answer 2

nobody is ever really happy unless they are happy with there self , it is rare for a person to be happy with there self,so in marriage that cuts the chances down by half, i would guess that maybe 1 in 500 marriages are more happy than not.as the length of the marriage increases so does the odds.Divorce rates are higher in part due to woman's recent liberation, in the last 60 years or so more and more woman are less dependent on there men to survive so they can just leave whenever they wish,and with the courts today and there high child support and giving the woman half of everything and alimony ,that further pushes up the divorce rate, what i am getting at is this
the CONCEPT of marriage came form a simple time "men provided Woman cooked made cloths and bore children" so we have an out dated tradition in a new modern world, that's why no one is happy the world has moved on, but our beliefs such as marriage has not!

Answer 3

Pre- Sorry for typos..... ! Happier? Humm I would have to say out of the some 50 or so couples I know, it would seem as if they do in fact have a great sense of true happiness and partnership between them. My ex-girlfriend and I joined a swingers group, made great friends, attened ( and still do) as well as hosted many events geared toward the 'lifestyle'. It was a little different for us then most couples, as we are a same sex couple! At first in our 'coumminty' ( 3 years now) it was odd to see us.. but after time... it was a fit.. Swingers I feel have FAR LESS bs drama than the I cheated on my husband/wife route. Hell, all I know is my own relations and events I have attended. FAR TO MANY ppl think it is a meat market of sex and spit changing, however, I have YET to run into this type of animal like 'acts'. We go to 'normal' clubs, bars, dance halls, hotels, etc....the only real difference I have seen over the years... We are FAR less likely to fight, bicker, worry if Jane is snogging Jim's wife/husband or if someone crossed a line... because EVERYTHING is on the table.. there is no reason to hide behind a mask and bs.. and less of course it is one of our costume parties! AND let me make another side note. MANNERS!!!!! You will NEVER find a member ( not an 'outsider' looking for ***) talking to or acting like trash to one another. It is a MAJOR turn off/offense to grab, poke, prod, touch, assume or take liberites in anyway with any of the members. We talk about what is 'ok' LONG before the hand stikes 12, so to say, on the clock. It voids all issues of stepping on toes, because RESPECT is the basic minimum NORM! If you lack that, you will quickly find yourself being asked in a pleasent but stern way to remove yourself. You become friends and even if there is someone in the group you may not be fond of, again RESPECT is how it is handled. So do I think they are happier? Well as being one of 'them' I would say yes on a dime! We all have problems and things that tick us off, but when you have the freedom to sit over dinner and openly talk about that hot Lady or Gentlman across the room ( even if no intention is there) what does that leave to hide or lie about from your other half? Nothing really... With Money and Sex being the 'devil' in relationships and the secrests about them being the pitchfork? Whats left if you have none of that? Nothing but compromise and understanding of the person you share your soul with....

Answer 4

Yes, there are a lot of people who have very happy marriages. It takes a lot of work and commitment. Some people are attracted to people for various reasons and if they aren't the right reasons they can easily become involved in things that are not
helpful to the marriage. My parents have been married for 52 years.

Answer 5

I have been married for 28 years to the same man.The first 13 years were OK we never argured we got along but we had different friends and that lead to him having an affair with a co-worker.He moved out for 2 1/2 years during that time before I knew about his affair we started going out on dates and spending weekends together.After the 2 1/2 years he moved back home and that was when I found out about his affair with the co-worker.It has been very hard looking at him without wanting to slap his face and leave him.It's been a very slow process for the both of us.But now I can say we get along better and we do thing together he calls me at lease two times aday not to mention he kisses me good-by every morning and when we say good-by over the phone.he tells me he loves me It's ashamed it took something so drastic for our marriage to be the way it should be.Now I can say we have a good marriage and it has been going on for10 years now.Does our marriage count.

Answer 6

Marriage is wonderful institution. So many people however make the wrong choice on who to marry. Happy marriage? Sounds like a contradiction in terms these days.

Answer 7

G'day. Yes I know 3 or 4 couples who are happily married, I guess Its all about being honest and truthful with each other , The people I know are just honest and truthful and honest and they are each others best friend. Once the trust has gone from a marriage and honesty and caring , well the usually is only one option , but however if the people involved are willing to forgive and learn to trust there is always hope.

Answer 8

I have a happy marriage. Yes the statistics are really bad. 50% of all marriages fail in the first 3 years and 50% of the rest fail sometime after that. Its sad... But I think that some people should get divorced. If your truly not happy and going somewhere else to get happy : then you really need to call it quits.

Answer 9

marriage is not easy. This is need take and give attitude.
Also need a lot of adjustment and need 100% trust between each other.
Sometimes people fell in love and they rush to get married. Sometimes peope in love, can not tolerate anymore for the attitute. This is because the ego is very big. If the other is forgiving, and communicate properly between each other then divorce can be avoided. They need councelling. Forgive is important. As divorce is not always the best solution. All the best.

Answer 10

I don't think that there is such a thing as a prefectly happy marriage. Marriage consists of 2 people that are willing to overlook the other's faults enought to stay together. In my opinion, marriage is a load of bunk.