2007-03-11 19:43:55 · 9 answers · asked by mariel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
details please....but for me i don't your in love...maybe you just like that person and that you find something new in him that you can't do with your husband...you want to find excitement and all that but being married gave you limitations on some aspects of your life...
2007-03-11 20:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Selfie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't love, babe. Its called playing with fire to get rid of the borring life you live. Your life is borring because you let it be a bore. Where is your ol'man during all this? Out trying to keep you out of the corner bar. You'd go to the bar, not to get picked up, but just to know someone else still sees you as attractive.
Figured out, yet, why you do that? You think that beeing seen as desirable means you are desirable. You are taking a complement on whether he would boink you to mean you are boinkable (boinkable - is that a real word?) Hey it could be its just a point you reach when someone else is drunk enough. I don't know. Why do you care what someone other than your "other" thinks. You don't trust them enough?
You miss the excitement because you were special then. You still are, only he hasn't said so lately. Of course, you haven't danced in your underware in front of him lately either. Tired of seeing him burp from that last beer? Ain't romantic is it? Then, drink wine and eat cheese with him as you watch House or CSI
You have it in your power to change what the two of you do without him even knowing its changing. In fact, it all changed already without either of you knowing it was changing. That's because you stopped working at staying in love.
It is something so precious and so good, that you've taken it all for granted. SO, WHAT DID YOU EXPECT? A leprechon to jump out of the wood work and say "Top of thee mornin' to ye. Oh by the way, you're killing your love. I'll be going now, after I've had a wee sip of some green beer."
2007-03-12 03:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Details, details, details. We need more details. However, from your tone, I'd guess your husband is a pretty ok guy. The typical situation would run something like cold husband, hot suitor, that kind of thing. As a guy, I know all men don't like to show their sensitive sides, and tend to take things for granted after they get married. (except for emos, who hardly get married in the first place)
Take some time off with a counselor, or a friend, and have a good discussion about it. The important thing is time, as time can test the strength of any love, or perceived love. Then make your decision.
2007-03-12 02:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by rawr8512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a marriage is a choice. Either you choose to stay in your marriage and honor your lifetime commitment, or not. Actually cheating or the thought of cheating on your spouse is just a red flag telling you that you have problems in your marriage. My advice to you is that you sit down with your spouse and discuss what it is that is missing from your relationship that is making you think of turning to someone outside of your marriage. Don't mention that you have had thoughts of another man, just explain that you are not satisfied with your marriage in the state it is currently in. Once you've tried to work out all problems in your marriage with your husband to be best of your ability and it still is not making you happy, then and only then is it ok for you to leave. Then you can leave knowing that you have done everything you could do to save your marriage and honor your commitment. Once you leave your husband, you will be free to think about this man that you have feelings for, but I do not recommend thinking about a relationship with this other man until you solve the problems you are having with your husband. There is the right way to handle things and a wrong way...choose the right way. You owe your husband that much, and you owe it to yourself to do the right thing.
2007-03-12 03:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a human being with feelings. Could also be that your current hubby doesn't give you the proper loving as he once did, and have found someone who's able to fill that void in your life. If you love this 'other' man, then end your current relationship and move on with your life. Don't "double-dip"... it's only going to create more problems. And don't hide it either, it'll make matters worst.
Hire an attorney, file for divorce and move on... be happy!
2007-03-12 02:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by midnyt12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear child you let the fire out today many people have found it easy to look some place over the other side remember if you can't find truth where you are where do you intend to find it? try to finest what you started
2007-03-12 03:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Doc S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart...
2007-03-12 03:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah because you married to young
2007-03-12 02:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your hubby do not treat you like before.
2007-03-12 06:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋