My boyfriend's daughter continues to mistakenly injure our one year old daughters. Black eye, scratches, bruise on face etc. How do I get him to understand that it may be jealousy instead of accidents. Every time his daughter comes over the baby is injured by her and she just says sorry it was a mistake just letting you know before she (meaning me) makes a big situation out of it.
2007-03-11 19:14:59 · 8 answers · asked by Marcella D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is 10 years old and her mother does speak bad about me. She has her keeping a calendar of whenever I redirect her behavior. I know he isn't hitting because he is not there when it happens and his daughter admits she does it by mistake.
2007-03-12 02:51:27 · update #1
It's time for someone to discipline his daughter before she hurts your baby badly or worst.I hope you are not one of those I'd do anything to keep a man women because if I had a kid and that was happening I would say handle YOUR kid before I have to!Not to say I would hit his kid but he needs to know you are serious.His daughter needs counselling because she sounds like she might be dangerous to others as well if she would hurt a defenseless baby. Also,I hope you NEVER LEAVE YOUR BABY ALONE WITH HIS KID not even for a second. How old is his daughter?Just curious because if she can give your baby a BLACK EYE, she's old enough to be seriously disciplined. And wait, I just thought of something, how do you know HE isn't hitting the baby and blaming the other kid? I'm just asking honestly please don't take offense. He should be taking up for you two's baby there's just NO excuse for what is going on and you're the only one who's mad about it.Another thing, tell her father to ask her what HER OWN mother says about you, you two's baby, and the two of you being together in general. If her mom hates you and tells her to do the same or even suggest she is against you to her daughter, the girl will act out and go treat the baby badly thinking she is "helping" her mom bc she(her mom) doesn't like you. A little girl can't hit a grown woman and cause too much pain so guess who she can hurt instead of you or her dad? Someone (which is your baby) she has to look at all of the time and be reminded of the hate she(or her mom) has for you and your relationship.Might sound a little weird but definitely look into how her mom talks around her...And if your boyfriend does nothing to defend you or his baby LEAVE HIM! It is his job to discipline his kid. It's better to be a single mom than a mom w/ a man(using the term loosely here) who allows his own baby to be beat up! It's not all about you anymore you have another life to look after.Good luck and keep your baby AWAY from that girl.
2007-03-11 19:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to protect your baby don't let the other child near your baby with out being closely watched. Counseling with that other child is in order as well sit down as a group and discuss whats happening and say hey these are not accidents what do you think your doing what is the problem here you need to get to the bottom of it. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 02:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by dianemelloniemarlenejerryginder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I'd be pretty upset too. I would watch her like a hawk. She probably IS jealous. How old is she? I just have to say, my husband's daughter was 11 when our son was born. She is now 13, and our son has never been injured. I know she gets jealous because she becomes instantly "sick" whenever we have to do something that involves around my son. I would suggest you keep your eye on her, and make sure you never leave the baby alone with her!
2007-03-12 02:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a mother WILLINGLY puts her babies in a harmful situation? The first black eye should have been the last black eye. The first scratch should have been the last scratch. And if this continuously goes on, then you have a lot of explaining to do as far as I am concerned. So again I ask you.....what kind of a mother WILLINGLY puts her babies in a harmful situation?
2007-03-12 02:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to talk to him about it. This is a problem, because your one year old daughter can not defend herself OR speak up for herself. Do what you have to do to protect your daughter. I wouldn't leave your boyfriends daughter alone with your one year old daughter anymore either. What if it goes to far and god forbid that she fatally injures your daughter? You have to talk to your boyfriend....as soon as possible. Good luck!
2007-03-12 02:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by tiff98444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt let her around the child alone and I would also have a family meeting with the older child there letting her know what you suspect and put your foot down. Your need to protect all of the children in your life.
2007-03-12 02:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by mamaac43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy thats bad you need to sit both of them down and talk to them.lol
2007-03-12 02:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible. Protect your babies and put an end to that.
2007-03-12 02:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋