I have a coworker that I get along with really well. We have the same sense of humour and the same ideals and opinions, so we talk all the time at work. But that's it! We've only socialized once outside of work, and it was totally harmless. I have e-mailed him on the weekend two times and called him at home once in a year of working together, and it was always because we needed to talk about something work related that couldn't wait until the next business day. The relationship is totally innocent.
However, his wife seems to think otherwise. When she comes by, she is either cold towards me or ignores me. He has apologized before for the way she treats me, so I know I'm not imagining this! Also, she always seems to go out of her way to subtly let me know that she doesn't plan on sharing her husband. (She's very clingy, and my coworker has said that she's not like this at home)
What can I do to show his wife that I'm not interested and that she doesn't need to be concerned?
2007-03-11 18:42:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Double date with them. I bet if you get along with him, you'll get along with her too! Maybe becoming friends will make her ease up a little. She's just feeling jealous about his relationship with you. Let her know that you're dating other men, talk about it, tell her a funny story about a date you were on. Get in her "chick" space so to speak. Find something you can both relate to and talk about it. Just be real, be yourself and hopefully she'll come around.
Good luck :)
2007-03-11 18:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she feels inferior to you and that you have something to offer that she can't. Maybe your co-worker talks about you all the time and she gets jealous and upset.
As long as you are being proffesional and courteous it dosent matter what she thinks/feels.
If you really want her to get over it call her up and ask her to lunch, have a chat with her/get to know her.
2007-03-11 18:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a truly difficult situation. my only advice would be to try and get to know the wife better. perhaps you could invite her to share a drink with you sometime. if she got to know you better perhaps she would feel more secure in your friendship with her husband.. best of luck.
2007-03-11 18:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just the way its world is you'll get over it soon
2007-03-11 19:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what you're doing until she askes.dont bring it up to her.
2007-03-11 18:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Deanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋